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Just Said Yes June 2020

Bride with Panic Attacks and Anxiety

Kacey, on May 19, 2019 at 11:46 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 10

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I've hit a little bit of a dilemma in my wedding planning. Part of my anxiety has to do with being a passenger in a car. I always need to drive my car so in case I have a panic attack driving to a certain place I can turn around and distract myself. So now I'm kind of stumped on what to do for transportation to the church and then from the church to my wedding reception. My mother wants to get a Limo but I will not be comfortable sitting on the back of a limo with a stranger driving. I will most definitely have a panic attack. I don't mind getting a limo for my wedding party but I was wondering if there were any options for my FH and I to drive ourselves to the reception in the least tackiest way? Any feedback would be appreciated!

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Jenna · on May 19, 2019 at 12:02 PM
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Hmm, this is a difficult one. I totally sympathize with you, as someone who suffers from an anxiety disorder and panic attacks myself.
How far out from your wedding are you?
Honestly, the most beneficial thing for you would be to try and work on that fear. Maybe speak to a psychologist about it. Or maybe be a passenger in the backseat of someone's car who you trust to drive. Have them drive along a quiet road where it is easy for y'all to pull over, in case a panic attack starts. Is there anything you can do or others can do to distract you from panicking, besides you getting behind the wheel yourself? It seems like you might be putting yourself (and others) in danger by getting behind the wheel whilst having a panic attack.
If all else fails... Then I would do as you've mentioned and drive yourself there.
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Caytlyn · on May 19, 2019 at 12:03 PM
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Who cares if others think it’s tacky? You have to do what’s best for you. Are you comfortable being a passenger with your FH driving? If so, I would have him drive the cleanest, most spacious car available to you. You could drive yourself if your dress is more of a sheath style. If you have a poofy dress I would try to go with an SUV or a van to give you the most room. Maybe even rent one.
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Kacey · on May 19, 2019 at 12:39 PM
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I definitely plan on working on it since I have a year until the actual wedding! But I am comfortable with my FH driving and me being the passenger. So I think I will try to see if we can find a cute car to drive in front while the bridal party in the limo follows us. Your suggestions made me feel a lot better like its actually do able. Thank you!
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Samantha · on May 19, 2019 at 2:10 PM
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I feel like brides and grooms rent really cool old/vintage cars all the time to get to their reception. Would make for some cute photo ops too :-)
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Sara · on May 19, 2019 at 2:13 PM
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I certainly don’t think it’s tacky for you to drive. I struggle with anxiety too and while some people may argue that it’s important to work push through the things that trigger your anxiety in order to overcome it, sometimes you have to simply do what’s most comfortable for you. Driving with your husband will give you two some alone time between the ceremony and reception which I think is super sweet in itself. Whatever you decide I am rooting for you and your peace, comfort, and happiness in your decision and on your wedding day! 💕
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Kelly · on May 19, 2019 at 3:57 PM
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Rent a vintage or just really glamorous one for you to drive, take some photos in it. Turn an anxiety into style and nobody will know. It's your wedding do what makes you feel comfortable and let your mother get in the limo with the party.
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Jenna · on May 19, 2019 at 4:16 PM
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That's a fantastic idea, Kelly!
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D · on May 20, 2019 at 12:03 AM
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There isn't a tacky ride out there in my opinion. Any way you feel safe getting around! Naturally work on facing your fears but if it comes down to it, it's ok to drive whatever car you want. And save money on rental expenses if you choose.
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Hannah · on May 20, 2019 at 12:07 AM
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You guys can absolutely drive yourselves. Honestly, I don't think I've ever noticed what vehicle the couple drives off in. However, I would also support the suggestion of speaking with a psychologist. There are definitely therapeutic options to help you work through your anxiety. Look into therapists who work with cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). There is a lot of research to support its efficacy for anxiety and panic attacks.
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Casey · on May 20, 2019 at 12:41 AM
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I've literally never seen what car a couple has taken. The use of limos or vintage cars seems like a send-off thing which I haven't been to any weddings with that ever these days but even if you were having one I don't think anyone would even notice or care what the vehicle is or who's diving. Don't let it add extra anxiety/stress to your life drive your own car and be comfortable!
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