Bride Tribe without the tribe?

You wouldn't have to worry about any responsibility because their only job would be is to show up the day of your wedding.

I'm doing the same thing! We are not having a wedding party and I just asked them if they would luke to get ready with me. I am also getting them robes for the getting ready pictures!

Thats literally a bridesmaid. I'd be pretty confused and offended if I was doing Bridesmaids duty without being a bridesmaid.
My best friend asked nothing of us other than to buy a $30 convertible dress in the color and show up. Tell your Bridesmaids you want them to show up and have a good day, nothing more nothing less. They'll be glad. You can have bridesmaids and not be a bridezilla or put them in financial compromise. I promise

I must have worded this wrong. I on't want them to have responsibilities, I just want to find a cute way to ask them to get ready with me and be in pictures. No dresses, no financial obligations.

View Quoted Comment My best friend did this, I prefer it to being a bridesmaid.

We ditched the whole bridesmaids thing too. While I never regretted the decision I started to want someone to be there to help me get ready. After getting great advice on these forums I asked one of my closest friends to come early to chill with me and help get me into my dress. She was so honored her cute video in response made me cry. So my first thought is to send a cute video as the ask. Pour a glass of something bubbly and put on a robe and make it cute and personal. Or just pick up something saying Bride Tribe and give it to them when you ask. I'm sure they'll love the idea of getting ready with you and enjoying those moments before the ceremony and the ability to choose their own look for the day.

View Quoted Comment No I don't want them to have any responsibility. I just want them to get ready with me and be in the pictures. Nothing more. They don't even have to get hair and make up done. Most of them are out of state anyhow so there's nothing they can do

View Quoted Comment I love this!

View Quoted Comment Like I said I'd be pretty pissed you asked me to be Bridesmaid without being a bridesmaid. Because that's exactly what Bridesmaids are for, they really don't have any extra responsibility, anything else is often made up by movies or because the bride wanted it. If you don't want anything extra then don't ask for it.

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Good luck! I look forward to hearing how it goes.

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That is not all a bridesmaid does. She usually buys her own dress in whatever style and color the bride chooses which can get pricey for some, attends the rehearsal if there is one, and is a part of the ceremony itself. Asking someone to get ready with you isn't a responsibility, it is a fun way to spend time with your friend on her wedding day. One of my closest friends is doing this with me and is honored I asked.

I love this idea! I think you are being very considerate of your friends from out of state. I know several people would disagree with me, but I don't think people should be offended that they don't have the title of bridesmaid. I'd be thrilled if a close friend said hey wear whatever you want and come sip champagne with me as I get ready for the big day.

As for cute suggestions, maybe a cute card? Then explain that there is no other requirement other than showing up!

View Quoted Comment Thank you! I definitely want them to know how special they are to me. We're keeping the ceremony small so they'll also be the only ones friends invited to that.

View Quoted Comment I love this! I totally want to do this too. It's getting hard not to spoil them, but I seriously have amazing friends and I just want them to feel special

I think including them would be very sweet! Just make sure they won't be offended for not being a bridesmaid

View Quoted Comment They're all expecting it, I've been saying this since I met my fiancé, haha. I just wanted a cute way to invite them to have champagne and be in pictures with me.

At my wedding my MOH(my cousin) walked down the isle and stood next to me but my friend who was not in the wedding party went to breakfast with me and then rode in the limo to the venue and helped me get in my dress and helped me with my crazy mother. That was not planned. It just happened lol. My friend ended up staying at the hotel next to us(in Vegas) and my MOH was farther down the strip and MOH was doing a lot with her parents who were also there. MOH was perfectly happy spending the quality time with her parents but my friend had wanted to be BM so she basically invited herself to help. I felt bad afterwards not having her in the bridal party since she was so helpful esp with making my mom back off.

I’m with you on this, girl! Trying to think of a cute way to do this as well so as soon as I come up with something, I’ll let you know ;-)

View Quoted Comment I got a couple of great suggestions, I found champagne split labels on Etsy that say bride Tribe, and champagne flutes that I'm going to have their name put on. The ones who are out of state I'll mail them with a card with the box and let them know how important they are to me, and how I would love for them to come early and get ready with me. I have two friends nearby that I'll meet up with and ask in person.

My bestfriend did this with me. She got married on a 7 day cruise in the Grand Cayman. She brought it up to me about how she knew it was a lot to ask since the cruise ship cost and what not but would be honored if I was there. I went, it was a lot of fun. Day of we went and got her hair and makeup done on the boat and then when we docked to get off the boat in the Grand Cayman we rode to the venue together and she finished getting ready and we sipped champagne. it was her , her sister and I and it was great. Then we took our seats and watched her marry her best friend.