Bride is not offering vegetarian option for dinner

Youre not being irrational at all. This is very rude and inconsiderate of her and I would seriously let her know how it makes you feel. If youre close enough to be her maid of honor she should take it with grace and careful consideration and hopefully talk to the catering manager about preparing something for you.

I find it distinctly odd that she isn't providing a vegetarian option - especially since she's getting ready to PAY for a meal you *won't* eat. Even disregarding guest comfort (which she is apparently willing to do) she's paying for it - so you'd think she'd want people to eat what she's paying for. As for "you'll be full from apps" - how is that going to work? You're supposed to stand and grab all the veggie items, and hope there's enough to fill you up? The whole thing just reads very rude of her. I would mention again that you would like a vegetarian option (most caterers are going to allow a vegetarian option that isn't one of the "choices") and would she please talk to the caterer. If she won't, I would mention that you're going to probably have to leave early, since you aren't getting any dinner you can eat. (Frankly, I'd be tempted to get a food delivery to the wedding, but that's just me)

She is choosing not to host you like the other guests....get full from apps? If that's the case, all other guests would be full and don't need a meal either. I would be upfront with her and explain how unfair and rude it is that she is not providing you a meal per your dietary restrictions. What is she doing for allergies?

It's so easy for caterers to accommodate dietary restrictions. They do it all the time. There is no reason for her not to provide a veg option. Maybe the caterer could provide just you with a veg meal instead of offering one in general, similar to the way many offer kosher meals?

I agree, you are absolutely not being irrational. We're not technically providing a choice of vegetarian or vegan, but we have them as an option with our caterer by request. It seems quite odd that its not being offered at all, even by request. Further, the fact that you're her MOH seems insane to me. I can't imagine telling my MOH essentially that I'm not going to feed her at my wedding and that she'll be full from apps (which, most of the wedding party isn't because a lot of time that is when pictures are being taken and often times the wedding party enjoys very little of the cocktail hour...).

I think you would 100% be in the right to bring this up to her and let her know that you feel very disrespected that she is treating you this way. In my opinion, your MOH should be your ride or die - someone you'd go to the ends of the earth for and vice versa.

Whoa. That's really rude. Particularly her response when you pointed out her error.

The caterer I'm assuming would be fine with putting together a vegetarian option for those that need it, it's not difficult. What if there are other vegetarians? Is she just going to let them sit there during dinner?

I'd have another discussion with her about this, it seems so disrespectful.

That's super rude, actually. she needs to be considerate of people's dietary restrictions.

i feel like the caterer would be able to have an alternative, i mean they usually do understand not all guests have the same diet. i would talk to her again about it because that's kind of rude.