Bride is ignoring moh and spreading gossip

Don't spend that money, do not do it. Something is up here and what ever it is will leave you holding the financial bag for this. Call her out on her crap and let her know you want to chat before moving forward with the parties etc. If she's not interested then stop all the planning. I personally wouldn't stand up in this wedding as it doesn't seem like she's a friend.

It's terrible you're dealing with this! As MOH, your only duty is to get your dress and be there for the wedding. It seems like she doesn't value your friendship. If I were you, I'd tell her that you no longer wish to be involved with planning the bachelorette party. Heck, I'd even bow out of the wedding.

Side note: As a rule of thumb, you shouldn't be paying for things up front hoping that all the other people will pay their portion. That hardly ever works out.

Life lesson. Never pay for something you are planning when the cost will be shared among a group of people. Do a budget, estimate each person's share, collect that money , then make reservations and deposits.

I would flat out tell this bride that we need to talk. If she can't share contact information, you won't be planning a bachelorette. Her behavior is beyond strange,

It sounds like you're being a wonderful MOH and anyone of us brides would be lucky to have you as our own MOH. I am sorry you are experiencing this. With all the fancy ways to electronically send money now days I'd suggest setting yourself up with one of these things and send the details to all people attending the bachelorette party the details with multiple ways to send the money (even the old way with just your address and offering a check by mail as option) and give a firm date of when you need the funds by if they wish to attend similar as RSVP. You can even give a simple explanation that you're following Dave Ramseys plan of no credit cards so you personally don't have the option of just charging it and being reimbursed later.

I would start to be a less kind to her, since it seems like this friendship could be on its way out anyway. I would text her and say something like "I've been trying to get the contact info for the guests for your bachelorette party. If you don't give them to me by x date, I can't continue planning this and won't anymore." I'd even consider telling her you're hearing that she's saying things about you, and maybe say that you don't want to believe it, but it's bothering you that you're hearing these things while feeling ignored when you're trying to plan this party for her.

I agree with everyone else - stop spending any more money and think about returning as much of what you've purchased as you can. I wouldn't want to be friends with her after this anyway. I'm sorry that you're trying to be a good friend and this is what is happening.

I've definitely been there. You feel like you're walking on egg shells around them, and no matter what you do it's just not enough. Don't put anymore effort into a one-sided friendship. I would have a serious conversation with her and put things to rest, no matter what the outcome is. You don't deserve that type of treatment. I went through this with one of my friends, and just had the blow out with her via Facebook messenger because she gave me the silent treatment for two weeks. I removed the toxic friendship from my life. I wish you the best for your situation.