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Just Said Yes November 2020

Bride here. My mil is trying to match him and me.

Jessica, on September 9, 2020 at 11:28 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 8

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My fh and I will not be having any bridesmaids or groomsmen because we’ve extremely downsized our wedding due to corona. We’ve got a beautiful flower and color theme, and his look was put together to compliment him and what I’m wearing. His mother recently showed me a dress that she would like to buy. It has the same pattern as mine but matches him. I had previously expressed what colors she should be looking at (I’m super open). But the dress she chose almost looks like mine in a different color, the color that matches him.

I let her know that I thought the dress was nice but it matched with his look and my look too much and that she should be looking for another dress. She insists on buying this particular dress. How do I approach this?

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Latest activity by Katie, on September 10, 2020 at 9:33 PM

Legend June 2019
Melle · on September 9, 2020 at 11:50 PM
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Ah perhaps you can suggest she wear a jacket or shawl over it ?
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Just Said Yes November 2020
Jessica · on September 10, 2020 at 2:16 AM
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That’s not going to change the fact that it’s going to look like a similar dress. :/
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Devoted September 2020
Marabeth · on September 10, 2020 at 2:20 AM
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Will FH speak with her? If you really don’t want her wearing the dress, it might help coming form her son. But a jacket can drastically change the look if she absolutely insist on wearing the dress.
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Mrs. Spring · on September 10, 2020 at 3:38 AM
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I recommend you have your FH approach her. The best advice I've ever been given in regards to in-laws is that blood should talk to blood whenever there is conflict.
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Mrs.a · on September 10, 2020 at 8:13 AM
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I agree, have FH talk with her one-on-one and have a firm suggestion to choose another dress and address your concerns that it’s too similar to your’s.
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Expert September 2020
Taran · on September 10, 2020 at 10:16 AM
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I would tell her again that it's too similar to yours and show some similar options that vary more from your style
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VIP August 2020
· on September 10, 2020 at 12:44 PM
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You might need an intermediary here. Does your fh have any sisters or sisters-in-law who can help you out?
Maybe you or that person can come up with a list of dresses (that are not THAT one) that you think would look good on her or are a similar style to things she's worn in the past and try to talk her into something else. I think, "you can wear anything that doesn't make you match the bride or groom," is a very reasonable dress code.
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Katie · on September 10, 2020 at 9:33 PM
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It sounds like she’s set on her decision. It’s good that it’s a different color than yours - I don’t think anyone will give it a second thought.
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