Bride has never met groomsman

** lives within a half hour away (30 mins)

I do think it's unreasonable. Obviously this person is close to him and he cares that much to offer him the position. Why is it such an issue that you haven't met him?

I agree that it would be nice to meet him and get to know one another, but requiring it wouldn’t be right since he’s your FH’s friend and he has the right to ask who he wants to stand with him. You have over a year to meet him as well, but even if you don’t it’s the relationship between your FH and his friend that counts.

My FH has never met 2 of my BMs as they live abroad.
Theyll have plenty of time to get to know each other leading up to the wedding ☺

My FH has never met a couple of my bridesmaids. I think it’s strange that you’re requiring that you meet him.

I’ve never met FH’s best man, who lives out of state. He’s only briefly met my MOH. Neither of these situations is ideal but you work with it.

My FH best friends are his best man and groomsman.. he only has 2. I met his best man 2 years ago when he visited, it was a drunken night of pool and monopoly, so I don’t remember him much. His groomsman I have never met, and I will in 3 days when I pick the 2 of them up from the airport for our wedding Saturday. It never crossed my mind to insist on meeting him. He has been friends with my FH for the longest and if he wants him to or apart of our day even if I haven’t met him I don’t mind. And I don’t see why you’d want to require this if you haven’t met him yet you probably won’t see him much after the wedding.

Is it unreasonable to want to meet him? No.

Is it unreasonable to require it? Yes. You aren't his mother, you don't get to require him to do things.

Ehh I get that you want to meet him, but you may just need to trust your faince's judgement on this one. I don't know over half of our groomsmen, and he has only barely met most of mine.

I have never met, and wont meet, any of the groomsmen before the rehersal dinner the night before. Two of them are FH brothers that live out of state, and one is his cousin that lives 30 min away (but doubt I'll meet him peior). I dont see an issue. They are his people.

It is reasonable to want to meet him, but it is unreasonable to require it for him to be a groomsman. This is your FH's friend, not yours. He's obviously close enough to your FH that your FH wants him there. Let it go.

I don’t think it’s a big deal if you have never met him and don’t meet him until the big day. He’s obviously important to your groom so just trust him on it. Life is busy, as everyone knows.

Agree it's super odd but in the end of the day its FHs decision...you get to pick your BMs, he gets to pick his GMs.

Your FH should be picking the people on his side. I will be meeting one of the GM a day or two before the ceremony and have only met his BM 2 times. The GM aren't going to be getting ready with you or doing things with you since you are the bride

I think there are a lot of different factors to this...how long have you been together? How often do they talk? When was the last time FH has seen him? Personally, I think the bridal party should reflect those friends who were also impactful on your lives and relationship, so it seems odd to me to have a groomsman who you've never met that doesn't live far away.

To your question, no I don't think it's unreasonable for you to want to meet him or to express those feelings to your FH. However, if you feel that way my advice would be to be very flexible and really try to meet this guy.

I never met my FH's best man until after he asked him and never thought anything was fishy. The guy was just busy and him and FH hadn't seen each other a lot anyway. It's totally reasonable to want to meet the GM but it is unreasonable to require it. It's someone he wants to stand with him on his wedding day. How would you feel if the situation was reversed?

I haven't met two of my fiance's groomsmen, they live in other states. I don't think it's unreasonable, and he should include him if he's a great friend to your fiance. I would just tell your fiance how important it is you meet him prior.