Bride & groom didn't say hi to guests

Wait how is also saying thank you on the mic to everyone while you've got everyone's attention & it's finally quiet not sincere? I mean, if that's the only thing you have done it's kind of considered lazy. But when you've already said thank you to most of them and want to say it again on the mic in front of everyone? I don't think that is wrong at all.

@Chelsea I'm sorry that happened to you

& Also. with the weddings I experienced, it was this as well as no one receiving a thank you note for their gift.

Say thank you somehow to your guests! Lol. These weddings were far & expensive to get to.

I sincerely wonder if I got to everyone at my first wedding. We had definitely over invited and not managed our time well so I was scrambling to get to everyone. :/ This time we're inviting fewer than 30 people so we shold be fine lol

Yes Ana, I agree. I agree 100% with your OP. I copped an attitude and did not mean to direct it at you. I hope couples who are looking at their wedding as a way to benefit from their guest's generousity see this though.

I have been invited to weddings where I felt like I was a there solely to provide a gift with the couple hoping to make more on their wedding than what they are spending hosting it. Fb invite, Fb TY, registry/honeyfund on invite, cash bar, no TY or Welcome of any kind. There are red flags from the get go as to how a coupke is treating the guest list. I would rather just not be invited. When an invite includes a gift registry or honeyfund of any kind, I rsvp no and send nothing.

I truly think that today's weddings are, as a whole, of the mentality that the couple should walk away with "profits". Inviting too many people to host properly and not wanting to take the time to sincerely thank for coming is proof.

Thank you Ana for letting me vent!!!!

It is absolutely rude not to greet each of your guests either by doing table visits or by doing a receiving line. At the end of the day, everyone should feel like the got a little face time with the couple they came to support.

We did table visits. DH is a T1 diabetic so he actually had to take time to eat his dinner so he wouldn't have a low, but even with that, we still managed to quickly eat each course, then get up and visit a couple tables, then go back to the sweetheart table when we noticed a new course was being served. And repeat. With the time between courses and the time right before we did our first dance, we had visited all the tables and had conversations that extended past, "Hello, thank you for coming," with so many of our guests. It really wasn't hard because everyone had things they wanted to tell us or ask us, so it's not like we had to work hard to do this. It was so natural.

If the B&G weren't even making an effort to go out and greet guests, that is rude and lazy. On the other hand if they were making an effort and just didn't get to everyone, I'd try and cut them some slack because they have a lot of stuff going on and tons of people vying for their attention.

I'm definitely going the route of saying hello to my guests while they're sitting down or during cocktail hour. Every wedding I've attended with a receiving line, I've always felt intense boredom and hatred for the practice. Had to wait in the line just to say a few words, the B&G have to stand there for upwards of hours so they can't enjoy any of their own reception, and it feels way too impersonal. But I guess it's better than no acknowledgement at all.

It's very rude to not greet your guests. You are the hosts, you need to acknowledge your guests. Even if it takes all night. That's the point of having guests.

We ate quick and then went table to table. We had 18 tables but made it through to see everyone and thank them

Definitely rude. It's like having a dinner party (in mass) and not welcoming or seeing off your guests. Not to mention thank you cards after the wedding.

I tried my hardest but I was still not able to speak to/thank every guest. Some left early (even before cake and dancing) and just slipped out without saying anything, which was a bummer because I had no idea and really wanted to get some photos with them--my grandma, OOT aunt, uncle, and cousin were among them. I tried to say hello and hug guests after the ceremony too but with the time crunch for photos we were not able to do so with all of them and could not talk very long. Definitely pad in some time during or after dinner (before dances and dancing) to go to each table, say hello and thank you, and take a photo with each table so you have a photo with all your guests. I also wished we had given a thank you speech during dinner, which we completely forgot to add into the timeline, let the DJ/coordinator know, and with all the craziness of the day we just missed our chance to do so without realizing it. This is probably my biggest regret of the wedding day.

We tried but the wedding planner cut us midway through. I wish I would have told her no and kept going from table to table. We took too long and it was time for toasts and cake. I did try to thank everyone at some point during the night.

I went to a very formal black tie wedding that "followed" every rule of etiquette. The B&G didn't greet anyone, just stayed with their friends. The staff of the wedding planner collected cards as we exited.

I do agree it's rude but I think a lot of it depends on your guest list size. Large guest list- then make a toast.

We had a smaller guest list (55). I loved it. We did table rounds to greet everyone but since it was so small, we partied with everyone.

It's rude not to try. Even with a large guest list, you should make table visits.

Super rude. It doesn't have to be a long, drawn out conversation. When my cousin got married, she walked to each table and hugged each guest and thanked them for coming.

Why would you invite guests and then not talk to them? Serious question because I don't get it. I would be pissed to take time to come to your wedding and buy you a gift, and not even get a "hi, thanks for coming" or "I'm gad you were able to make it." If you can't make your rounds to talk to 150 people, don't invite 150 people. If you don't like small talk, don't invite people you have to small talk with. I'm having 25 guests, all of which are immediate family and friends that I am close with, and all I which I will be able to spend quality time with.

Oh gosh, I couldn't imagine not saying hello to every guest and spending some time with them. If you can't greet each guest and don't have the time then your guest list is too big.

I think it is quite rude but it's also the reason I wanted to keep my guest list under 100. I want to greet my guests at each table but not spend all night doing it either. Someone on another thread posted that her and her hubby ate right after cocktail hour while they were waiting to be introduced. If I can do that then while guests are eating I can make my rounds.

I agree every guest should be talked to and it's a fault I myself unintentionally committed. I didn't get to talk to a couple of people at mine and I felt horrible when they went to leave. When they were leaving I apologized and we made plans to meet up this week so I have gotten to see them since but I still feel horrible about it. So even if you can't talk for long at least go say hi. Show them you appreciated them being there. You don't want to hurt feelings of those you care about.