Bride and Groom taking both last names question

I have heard that alot of people don't enjoy the hyphenated names and have issues with them. Some don't mind.

I am in the process of changing mine to my middle (dropping my middle completely) and taking his name. I have to appear in court to get it officially changed in Feb.

FH and I have actually discussed combining our last names. It started as a joke, became our wedding hash tag, and then became a serious possibility as a name change. I'll probably just end up taking his last name, but it's another option.

I know people with more than one middle name.

I think it's only complicated if you do two last names unhyphenated.

We are doing something sort of like that! I'm taking FH's last name and we are both changing our middle names to my maiden name!

First name, my maiden name, his last name. For both of us!

ETA I just reread and saw that you're attached to your middle names. I know multiple people who have more than one middle name (my FH currently being one of them!)

I would warn you that if you do not use a hyphen, people will assume that the first of your last names is a middle name, and will drop it. So if you want them to use both, you'll need to hyphenate.

As far as having to drop your existing middle name if you use your maiden name as a middle name, it's clearly not true in all states. My mother has four middle names, including her maiden name, and no one has ever suggested she's not entitled to them all. But the people to consult with would be a) the marriage license people in the state where you are getting married, if you are getting married in a state that allows you to specify your name after marriage on the marriage license, and b) the driver's license people in your home state, since they are the ones that would process any name change based on marriage or otherwise.

Thank you for the responses. I also wasn't quite sure where else to check since we're not getting married in the state we live in, but it sounds like the actual change would still be in our home state.

The main reason we're deciding between hyphenating vs. the middle name thing is because we haven't quite figured out if we want people to use both or mostly use one but have both there.

Hi i just legally changed my birth name. You have to go to supreme court and show the judge valid reason for wanting the name change. If they approve then u have to publish it in the required paper then get your documents and file changes. Then ss card id etc have to change. To answer your other question yes if u want to keep maiden name you drop your middle name given to u. You can hyphenate your last names. . i also am not positive but i dont think he can have your maiden name unless hes adopted by your family. That then could cause issues getting married.. Hope this helps

Of course he can have her maiden name if he wants. The only issue is whether he has to go to court to change his name, or whether he can do it automatically as a result of the marriage.

It may depend on where you're getting married. I know massachusetts allows either member of a couple or both to list surname after marriage on the license, but I don't think all states do. It may be easier for one of you to do a legal name change (probably him because gender norms suck) and then the other one to do a name change due to marriage.

Whewww if I combined mine and FH last name it would be 19 letters long.

My DH has been hyphenated his whole life, and it sometimes poses issues for things like checking in on airplanes, ticket confirmations, government online forms. it's more of an annoyance than a huge dealbreaker, but something to be aware of.

When my mom married my dad she kept her MN but also took his LN. But she didn't hyphenate the two.