Bride and groom served plated meal at a buffet?

We had a buffet for our rehearsal dinner and a server came up to us as soon as they opened the line and asked what we would like on our plates. She kept refilling them as needed through dinner so we didn’t have to get up! It was great, and unexpected (hadn’t even thought about that being a thing while planning).

Most of the weddings I have been in have been pleated meals. But the two weddings I was in that had buffets, they both served plated meals to the bride and groom and the entire wedding party. I guess I just assumed that was standard practice for buffet weddings. But now that you mention it, I’m not sure why that would be. I would assume so the wedding party doesn’t have to stand in line in their suits, dresses and heels? But if that’s the case, it’s not really fair to the guests who are also dressed up. I’ve never thought about it, and don’t have the answer. But I hope somebody here does, because I am curious now 🤔

Our caterer came up to us as meal service was starting and asked if we’d like them to make us up plates with a little of everything or if we preferred to go through ourselves and I kinda shrugged and said we’d be fine to do it, but then asked my husband and he said definitely yes to their plating…and I am so grateful otherwise I 100% wouldn’t have eaten. Every time I went to do anything, I got dragged in another direction, so I surely would never have taken the 2 minutes for myself to actually put together a plate.
Our caterers were fully aware of our allergies and preferences and it was the lead coordinator who orchestrated the plating. I would probably have preferred more of something and less of something and generally prefer making my own plate (part of why I like a buffet!) but it was definitely the right call in terms of getting us fed with warm plates of food.

Pur wedding was buffet style, but a member of the staff came up to us at our sweetheart table and asked what we wanted then they made our plates and brought them to us. They wanted to give us time to sit, relax and enjoy our time together.

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We had a buffet meal but we were served a plated meal. That worked out perfect since we barely had time to eat before we started mingling with our guests.

I have never noticed this. Seems kind of strange to me as a guest that I have to get my own food while the bridal party doesn't, but again I didn't know this was a thing!

We're having a buffet meal and at our food tasting a couple weeks ago, they said they'll be bringing us our food (just my FH and I)!

I saw this before!! my bff had a buffet for her wedding but she and the groom were given a plated meal i think it was just meant moreso that they could already save some time having food brought to them

Usually this is because if they bride and groom got up to get their own food, they’d be stopped by a lot of people wanting to say hi/congratulations/chat. They’d never make it to getting food and by the time they did, they’d be getting pulled to do other things (spotlight dances, cake cutting, etc). We didn’t have a buffet, but anytime I tried to go use the bathroom or help my daughter with something, I was stopped at least 5 times by people. I can understand not wanting that to happen when you’re just trying to eat.

We had a buffet for our guests and a server brought plated meals to the two of us at our sweetheart table. It's really a way to save some time and also allows you to visit with guests while they are waiting for their tables to be called to the buffet. I can see it being fun to go through the line with your guests too, but as PPs have said, remember that you are the center of attention and you going through the line could actually slow down the line because folks are trying to congratulate you, take selfies, etc.

One great way to avoid allergies/ preferences is to build the menu around your and your FS' allergies and needs, then factor in those of your closest family members. If you add something to your menu that you don't want on your plate, simply confirm with the caterer to have a server come to you first and ask if you're ready to eat, then you can tell them what to skip while preparing your plates.

We requested that our caterer do this for us so that we can get started eating while everyone else is going through the buffet. Then once we have eaten, we can mingle with each table for a couple of minute while they are eating. Our DJ is actually the one who suggested we do this as a way to say hello and chat with all of our guests even if it is only for a few minutes.

I've seen this done before. I think one reason is so that the bride and groom have more time to greet the guests at each table instead of standing in line.