Post content has been hidden

To unblock this content, please click here

Beginner January 2022

Bride and Groom - getting ready together??

Christine, on September 9, 2021 at 6:40 PM Posted in Planning 0 11

Saved

Flag
Hide content

Has anyone thought of the idea of the bride and groom getting ready under the same house? My FH isn’t from the city we’re getting married in and my family is all from here. His family is NOT the type to plan and books things last minute. So even if we asked them today what they were going to do in regards to booking a hotel, they probably would say they don’t know. If they do book a hotel, he will want to get ready with them.

However, he was telling me he doesn’t want to stress or even rely on them for anything

I feel bad that he basically doesn’t really have anywhere to get ready locally (his family lives about 2 hours away so we think it’s a little risky for him to get ready with them). So I was wondering if it would be completely weird for us to get ready at my parents house. we could section off the house so he doesn’t see me and all that but at the end of the day I really don’t care if we see each other or not. I want him to be comfortable and feel like he has someone in this big day.

Flag
Hide content

11 Comments

Latest activity by Ellen, on September 14, 2021 at 1:23 PM

Master October 2023
Cece · on September 9, 2021 at 6:58 PM
Flag

Hide content
If his family is unreliable, then I agree with him that you shouldn’t rely on them for a space to get ready in. However, you said that he would prefer to get ready with his family, so I would just book him a hotel room for the purpose of getting ready in, and he can just tell his family (wedding party?) to report to the hotel room at a specific time to begin getting ready.
- Reply
Super September 2026
Laura · on September 9, 2021 at 7:03 PM
Flag

Hide content
I find it incredibly romantic that you could share space while getting ready. The pictures would be amazing! You could take shots that show you each trying to peek at each other - or hide. It could really add some unexpected magic to your day! Always turn a negative into a positive!!! *His family could always come to your house to help him too! Then if they aren't reliable it won't matter.
- Reply
Devoted July 2023
Scandalousrandallous · on September 9, 2021 at 7:34 PM
Flag

Hide content
We most definitely are getting ready together
- Reply
Master February 2022
Rosie · on September 9, 2021 at 7:34 PM
Flag

Hide content
Why don't you book somewhere just for him, or somewhere he and his family can get ready, so he doesn't have to worry about it?
my fiance and I booked accommodation for all our bridal party (including his family) and so we both know what is happening and have control over the bookings - and his family aren't even disorganised!
On the other hand there's nothing wrong with getting ready together if you don't mind seeing each other on the day, and that's what ends up being most practical and financially sensible for you guys!
- Reply
VIP January 2019
Maggie · on September 9, 2021 at 8:08 PM
Flag

Hide content
View Quoted Comment

I agree with this. I would never rely on flaky people for something this important, so he should just book his own hotel room. But also, of course it's fine for you both to get ready in the same house if that works for you. There are no actual rules other than doing what you both want.
- Reply
Master October 2020
Yasmine · on September 9, 2021 at 8:12 PM
Flag

Hide content
I don't see a problem with getting ready together, especially if you don't mind him seeing you!
- Reply
Champion July 2019
Veronica · on September 9, 2021 at 8:13 PM
Flag

Hide content
I've never heard of the family being responsible for providing a place to get ready unless they offer. In this case, I would recommend booking the space yourself for him and his family (birdal party?) to get ready in.
- Reply
Super May 2022
Samantha · on September 13, 2021 at 9:15 AM
Flag

Hide content
My FH and I will be getting ready at our home together. I'll be in our room, he will be out in the living room (because lets face it, guys take 2 minutes to get ready lol). We will be spending the night before together also. This is our wedding, we want to be together as much as possible.
- Reply
Beginner January 2022
Christine · on September 13, 2021 at 11:31 AM
Flag

Hide content
View Quoted Comment
Yes! I love this! This is basically what I was thinking for us as well. I also told him that seeing him all day would make me less nervous
- Reply
Champion December 2022
Michelle · on September 13, 2021 at 12:03 PM
Flag

Hide content
I’ve heard of this and the couples don’t follow superstition so it isn’t an issue. Do what works best for you. It may help calm your nerves to have him there.
- Reply

Devoted October 2021
Ellen · on September 14, 2021 at 1:23 PM
Flag

Hide content
If they are unreliable get ready together. My first marriage we eloped so we got ready at the same time and went to the venue together. It’s ok. You’re marrying your love so that’s all that matters.
- Reply