Bride and groom didn't greet us at wedding

I’m not saying that you are wrong for feeling upset, but, I think you need to be a bit more understanding – after all, as you yourself said, the bride and groom did not say hello to anyone – it is not as though you were deliberately snubbed or ignored.

It is always lovely to have the bride and groom say hello to everyone at the wedding but this is quite unrealistic in large weddings. Between all the formalities of weddings (meals, speeches, cake cutting, dancing etc) there is very little time to actually go up to every single person and speak to them in person.

Just because they did not come up to you personally does not mean they didn’t want you there or didn’t care – if that were the case, they wouldn’t have invited you. Personally, I can’t imagine taking the time to do this at my own 130 person wedding (I’d literally be doing nothing but saying hello to everyone), let alone at a 200 person wedding.

Unfortunately some people do have manners. The minimum requirement of hosting a party is to greet your guests so not doing so is highly offensive and rude. There is no excuse at all to not greet guests.

I attended a wedding once where the bride actually got angry when anyone talked to her or the groom which was uncalled for.

Every other wedding I have been to, the bride and groom come around and say hello. My parents did it at their 300 person wedding (and my dad still gripes about how the only thing he had to eat that night was a cocktail olive)

I'm not saying it's pleasant, but I feel like if you don't want to thank your guests for coming, maybe you don't really need to invite them?

Imagine getting angry at guests YOU INVITED for trying to talk to you at your party. Incredible

I definitely don't want to harbor a grudge. I just get the sense that they invited us (and many other people) in order to get gifts. Their total guest list was almost 400 people. The wedding was a bit of a bargain, which there isn't anything wrong with at all, but we ended up buying something from their registry that cost twice the amount of our plates--and we bought the cheapest thing left!

I wouldn't take this super personal! I get your feelings may be hurt after the effort put into going to their wedding, but that really is a lot of people to greet.

Personally, I want to have the wedding and have our closest people there to celebrate us, but I really don't want to remember my wedding day as running around trying to speak to everyone. They may have had the same mindset and just wanted to focus on each other, but still have everyone there to celebrate! You're not wrong for being offended, but I would just try to be graceful!

I wouldn't take it personally because that's a LOT of people.

I guess i am goign to be the outcast here but 200 people is not a lot of people and if they thought it was a simple microphone announcement thanking everyone and telling everyone they are happy everyone came takes less then 1 minute. I think its rude... you drove 7 hours to get there.. I have out of town guest coming (1200 miles away) and i booked all their hotels, making them goodie bags and i also have a welcome line when entering to make sure i can see and say hi to everyone. Better planning is needed for larger parties.

THIS right here! Spot on

Some venues can accommodate this number of people easily... My venue is an outdoor venue that can host 500 with COVID restrictions due to its layout. If people are worried, they simply can keep a mask on the whole time or choice to not go.