Bridal showers for couples that have lived together for years?!

I am in the same boat. FH and I have been living together for 5.5 years. We're good for household items. We recently moved and we thought we would do an engagement party/moving party for our friends and families to come and drink and bbq and celebrate...but without the gifts and such. Just a lovely weekend of love.

My mom is like yours - her only daughter getting married- but at this point in my relationship, I too feel it's tacky to ask for gifts.

You shouldn't be throwing yourself a shower . If your mom or friends want to give you one , why not. ? Can you not use a few upgrades in your home ?? I say go with it , enjoy the party and register for a few fun household items. I've lived with DH for a year before we got married , still had a shower and registered.

What if you just had bridal tea? Or have a couples shower and get tools for the yard and garage? Or if you drink a stock the bar party. If you drink wine you could go to a vineyard and just have a wine tasting to celebrate with everyone. It wouldn't have to involve gifts.

We have lived together for 2 years. All large items we do not need. However, we decided to update our small appliances, linens, cook/dinner/flat/stem/glassware.

I have lived with FH for 2 years and we just had a shower. Most of our stuff is the cheap grody stuff you buy in college or hand-me-downs so it was great to get real dishes, towels, and other things. But that was our situation. Your mom is right: if you have a shower, you need to register for gifts. But this is totally up to you. Maybe see if she would be willing to change it to a bridal luncheon. Same idea but no gifts.

Or just decline. If you don't feel right about it, decline.

I'm not having one. We live in a small apartment and don't really need anything, so it just didn't make sense. My mom offered to put the money she would have used for the shower towards our rehearsal dinner instead. I gladly accepted!

I am NOT throwing myself a bridal shower lol I actually have told my bp not to bother. It's my mom who wants this. I really don't want to register for anything though as we don't need anything. Of course there are always "upgrades" that could be used, but, it just feels like a greedy cash grab! I'd love to have one just to socialize. My mom thinks we should do a honeymoon registry and everyone can contribute to it but again, it's a cash grab! Tucker - just to bug my mom, I told her I'd register at a kinky store and have a sex toy party! lol that's my only compromise! She blushed and said my great aunts would be uncomfortable with that! lol but honestly, booze and tools are not needed either! We have a bar that's gathered dust. Not drinkers. And a she'd full of tools fh uses less then I do! (He's not handy). But thanks for the suggestions!

Rosie! We are date twins!!! Yay! I envy you! I will suggest this to my mom, but, I'm sure she won't. So dang stubborn!

I am 36 and have the basics, but I did not say no to a shower! I registered for upgrades and extra stuff I didn't have. For example, all the sheets I owned are older - bought before I met my husband - and so we wanted sheets that were "ours." And then better knives and things for entertaining and such.

I am 32, and I have been on my own for 11 years. My fiance and I have lived together for 5. Honestly, neither of us ever invested in "nice" things; Ibought what I could afford when I moved out at 21, and it really hasn't lasted well. We have mismatched silverware, pots & pans, chipped dishes, clearance glasses, mismatched towels and just okay bedding. We are also missing knives out of the block and most kitchen gadgets came from dollar store.

Someone mentioned to me that I didn't "need" a bridal shower based on age, and that really didn't sit well with me. It seemed wierd that someone would say that. Bridal shower is really like a big part of the process. It would be so odd not to have one. And a bunch of ladies are very excited for it. I say go for it.

And word to the wise, you may end up with a bunch of glasses and other misc stuff you have no use for without a small registry. I'd look for novelty or unique items you wouldn't normally buy for yourself or really nice barware, or serve ware etc.

It doesn't sound like you will, but don't make a honeymoon registry for a shower. What would you open?? "Thanks Aunt Sue for the drinks at the pool, I mean the $50 minus the 5% convenience fee."

I think a bridal luncheon or tea would be perfect. No shower, no registry, but a chance to socialize and celebrate.

We will have lived together for almost 4 years by time we get married and both will be in our 30s. A lot if what we have right now has been the cheaper of items that in a few years will not be in that great if shape. I also have a bunch of garage sale items. We will be upgrading most of the things we have. If someone is wanting to get you something and I am guessing it's more than just your mom. Do a small registry fir items that that could use an upgrade or for structures that you both like to do.

Lori m- that's what I said to my mom! What's the point of having a hm registry?! It's basically a plea for $! lol I will push for a tea luncheon but if my bull headed mom keeps pushing, do a small modest registry with very affordable gifts. I do really love the idea of a tea party! I'm a tea fiend and anyone who knows me knows this! Thanks!

Im in the same boat. FH and I have been together for 10 years! We have everything. I made a small registry after being hounded to do so with a few upgrades that would be nice. I found an amazing bathroom set at BB&B that I fell in love with that I added to my registry. You can't stop someone from throwing you a shower.

My fw and I have lived together for 8 years... I am sure we can use a LOT of upgrades with our pots and pans ...lol I'm not sure if we will get a bridal shower... (our bridal party lives out of state), but if they want to throw one, fine... if not fine. All of these new kitchen gadgets are nice too. Just because you have been living together for 4 years, does not, by any means, mean you can't find something you could want. I was thinking like you in the beginning, I get where you are coming from. No one can call you greedy for having a shower... because you are not throwing yourself one!

We lived together all through college, so we have a TON of stuff already. We decided to register for nicer things, like wine glasses, plates and silverware. This way, we can throw away our $2 Wal-Mart plates once and for all! I had a shower, and luckily people stuck to the registry!

I still live at my parents house and FH lives with his mom right now, and we both hate the idea of a bridal shower. So even tho we are starting from zero we are not having one. I hate asking and i'm always uncomfortable receiving gifts.

The FH and I have lived together for over three years. Although we have a lot we never really got anything decent. Our mindset was always get the cheapest we can find because we are broke college students. We will be having a shower and although we don't have a huge registry we did decide to upgrade some things.

Ladies who are upgrading, please don't throw anything away. Donate it to Veterans of America *****@************.***