Bridal shower/engagement party

Destiny, you don't throw either of these parties for yourself.

You don't. You let other people offer to throw parties for you, you don't host them yourself.

An engagement party is one thrown by someone else if they offer to celebrate your engagement, usually shortly after your engagement.

A bridal shower is a party thrown by someone else if they offer to celebrate your wedding, usually a few weeks to a few months before the wedding.

ETA Pls update your avatar.

You don't throw your own shower or engagement party. You friends, family, or bridal party does.

A shower is to shower the bride with gifts for your home with your husband.

An engagement party is to celebrate your engagement.

PP's have said it. Don't throw wedding related parties for yourself.

I have been to self thrown engagement parties, especially if family is out if town...as the brides family usually throws the party. Showers however, are never thrown by the bride herself and are usually very near the wedding date. Engagement parties are usually shortly after the actual engagement.

An engagement party is to celebrate the engagement. It's typically held 2-3 months after becoming engaged.

A bridal shower is meant to shower the bride (and groom) with gifts, and is usually held a few months before the wedding.

You do not throw these parties yourself, someone offers to throw you one. I'm on the fence about hosting your own engagement party - it could be done, if it was something super casual, like "hey come meet us at the bar for drinks - Sam and I just got engaged!"

But for sure do not host your own bridal shower.

An engagement party is a party thrown shortly after a couple gets engaged by someone else in honor of the couple.

A bridal shower is a party thrown by someone else who is not the bride or the person she's marrying in honor of the bride within 1-3 months of the wedding date where the purpose of the party is to shower the bride with gifts for her home with her future spouse.

It's not okay to plan either event for yourself and it's also not okay to combine them. Additionally, it's not okay to ask someone else to throw them for you.

If no one offers to throw them for you, it's completely okay to just not have them.