Bridal Shower/bachelorette Party if Eloping?

If no one is invited to the wedding, I don't think it's appropriate to have a shower.

You can, however, go out for a celebratory girls' night with your friends, but don't call it a bachelorette, and don't expect people to cover your expenses all night.

View Quoted Comment I agree. Eloping is usually a private event, so having a party that's "bigger" than eloping seems weird. A small celebration with close friends and family would be an appropriate event.

View Quoted Comment What she said.
It would be rude to invite people to a shower to bring you gifts when they are not invited to the wedding.

You would not host anything. However if your friends want to celebrate you anyway, hey why not go for it! We did that for a friend of ours who got married with just their parents there. But the hosts weren’t attending the wedding either. I think it’s fine when no one is going but starts to get muddy if a friend/family member that IS going throws a shower because the gift expectation gets weird. But if no one is going but still wants to celebrate, it’s all good.

I think that having a bachelor/bachelorette party is an awesome idea if the people invited will also be invited to the elopement.

No it wouldn't be right to have those events. Having a bridal shower would be "gift grabby" ...kind of like hey we don't want anyone sharing our special day with us but we do want gifts so come to this party and give them to us.

If you want to invite some girl friends out shortly before to celebrate the fact that you're getting married than that's fine, but I wouldn't call it a bachelorette