Bridal Shower

It's customary for someone else to host your bridal shower.

I would think its fine! Its not like you're saying its my birthday and bridal shower so give me double the gifts- now that would be a different story.

I think its fine, however it is rude to plan your own shower. Let whoever is hosting it worry about the date.

That is the thing though, she like left that up to me and not being much help at all. I would love to not plan the bridal shower, one less thing for me to do. Just wish she cared a little more I guess.

FH n I are getting married on our shared birthday. We are planning a wedding/not a birthday party. Just ask your bridal shower hosts to do the same...no mention of your birthday.

Guys, the bride still needs to be involved about the shower date Otherwise your hosts are planning an event not knowing if the guest of honor can attend! The bride should 100% be involved with helping decide on the date and guest list.

I think this is a fun and easy way to double-up on celebrations if that's the best date that works for you! It could be a "birthday bridal shower", or not mention your birthday at all! As a shower guest I would not feel compelled to have to buy an additional gift.

If my friends don't know it is my birthday then maybe they shouldn't come to the bridal shower Only joking, kind of. I would love to just get the ball rolling for her, like the date and guest list because she doesn't know my aunts and work friends. If my MOH wants any help planning you bet I am going to help her!

I don't think people would assume it had anything to do with your birthday since that wouldn't be mentioned. A lot of people don't readily remember birthdays anyway, so they might not make the connection. I think it's fine for the bride to agree to the date or even pick the date, and that doesn't mean you're "planning your own shower." What if someone picked a date that didn't work for you at all?

Also, September 10 is a Sunday. Is there a reason you couldn't do it on Saturday the 9th?

A lot of my friends work Saturday shifts but everyone is off Sundays. I could do the 9th, it would just require majority of my guest list to switch their shifts. But then again it is my bridal shower and I should have it on a Saturday if I want and that way my actual birthday I can sleep all day long

Haha, I get that. Mine was on a Saturday (Labor Day weekend actually, and everyone still came), but it was almost on that Sunday because my sister/MOH/shower host always has Sundays off.

I think having it on your birthday is fine. Two separate events!

I think its fine to have it on your birthday! You'll just feel extra special!!