Bridal Shower

My bridesmaids planned mine but they asked me what kinda themes or things I'd like

You're not ready supposed to plan showers yourself as they're gift giving events. I thi k it's okay to have input in the plans but I wouldnt plan my own. I didnt have one because nobody offered

View Quoted Comment Make sense. What if I got asked to choose from 2 places and that person told me no to do the other option instead?

My mother is pretty much doing my whole bridal shower. I know bits and pieces of what decor is and such. She's really going all out for it.

My maid of honor, bridesmaids, mom, and FMIL planned mine. It was today and it was wonderful. I didn't have any involvement because they wanted to surprise me. You're really not supposed to plan your own since it's a gift giving event. Plus, with everything required to plan the wedding itself, I feel like it's easier to let that one go - one less thing on your plate to even be involved in it unless your hostess has any specific questions.

You do not plan your own shower and you stay out of the planning unless asked. If your loved ones decide to throw you a shower, view it as them giving you a gift. Accept it graciously in whatever form it comes.

A bridal shower is a party in the bride's honor, where friends or family are the hostesses and plan the party. In all circumstances, be it a birthday or shower, it is not polite for a person to plan something to get gifts for themselves. Your bridesmaids, or MOH, or any close friend not in the bridal party, or close family, any of these people can volunteer to do it. Others will think you selfish or greedy if you plan a shower for yourself.

View Quoted Comment In the end, it is the hostess planning the party who decides where it will be, and how it will be done, and which people/ how many from your guest list they invite, not the bride. If you are asked for a suggestion, they will consider it, but then not do it. Only a suggestion, the hostess always has the final decision.

My maid of honor (sister) was originally planning it. She has since asked me to be involved with the planning with her. Until she asked I was just giving answers to her questions.

My bridesmaids, mom and aunt planned mine. I think it’s best to trust the people that love you and you’ve asked to play an important role in the wedding to plan the shower. They should know you pretty well! Mine knew I wanted something very low-key and that’s exactly what they did.

I wish I would've planned my own. The person who planned mine didn't invite any of the guest I asked her too.. she also wasn't prepared because I was called the morning of to buy drinks, flatware, and napkins for my own Bridal shower. I wasn't happy. I dont want to sound ungrateful but she has been the one to jump up and say what she is doing and so far hasn't kept her word on anything yet. I'm just saying don't bite off more than you can chew. Just to be clear she is volunteering not being asked to do these things.

You don't plan your own shower. If your MOH offered to host, she should be the one planning and you should be appreciative of whatever plans she makes.

In general you don't plan your own bridal shower. If someone else is planning it you can tell them you want a more casual feel or prefer a certain theme.
I personally don't think it's awful to plan your own shower, many people want the experience and don't have the family or friends to support such an endeavor.
Tell whomever planning it what you'd prefer but understand it might not happen.

Mine was planned by my FMIL and some family friends with no input from me. If someone offers to throw you one and explicitly asks for your input about things like decor/food/activities, then give it, but otherwise, you should only really tell
a shower host your schedule/availability and who you’d like invited. Everything else is up to them!

My sister (moh) is planning it with the help of the other bridesmaids. She won't even tell me what day it is. I'm allowed to know nothing.

The closest I came to "getting involved with the planning" was redirecting guests who asked me about details. I would tell them that, "I have no idea if anything is being discussed or planned for that. Maybe check-in with my bridal party? They would likely know more."

Then I gave my bridal party a heads up that guests were asking - but adding the caveat that I'm not expecting or requiring anything. Just that I'm redirecting inquiries to them.

Let others go from there. My bridal party checked in on a few preferences, but that was about it. I went in with very low expectations. But I absolutely loved what they did with it!

I’m not planning the shower & have very little input. I provided the list. For the most part my MOH & her mom are handling it. However one of my bridesmaid printed the invites & mailed them. I only knew about that bc she forgot to put a RSVP on them, and asked me what to do, if they needed to be reordered - I was like can you just write it on the invite lol, so that’s what she did. Beyond those things, I’m in the dark.

They asked who I wanted to invite.

My mother planned mine. She consulted me on some things but ultimately, I let her take charge.

My FMIL offered to take on majority of the planning but my MOH and bridesmaids are obviously helping out. They are all allowing me to have say about the food that is served because I'm super picky but other than that it is all a surprise to me!