Bridal shower without the bride

If you can't be there, there shouldn't be a shower. What would be the point, besides a gift grab?

Yea this seems really weird and I definitely wouldn't come. It would just seem like you're in it for the gifts tbh

That does seem odd.

I think I would skip it. Showers are not required. As a guest I would feel awkward and gift grabby.

Ummmm...there are no words.

Just no.

I went to an absent baby shower for my future niece because she lives in Texas and most of us are in Illinois. It was fun. Showers aren't just about presents. We played games, had food, talked. It depends on your guests. And depends on how you feel. No way to play it a time you could get there?

Not entirely the same, but a small group of my mom's friends threw an absentee baby shower for my brother and sister in law last year as they live out of state. They skyped in for part of it, and my parents took the presents up when they visited after the baby was born. I thought it was very sweet, because these were women who were always around and supportive while we were growing up, and just wanted to do something nice for my brother. I couldn't attend, so I can't speak to how awkward it was not having the guest of honor present.

Sounds odd. It would seem very gift grabby to me if I were invited.

Seems odd. Maybe claim no gifts if they want to go with it. That way no one thinks it's gift grabby!

Im in your shoes, but im travelling for the shower. there was a girl on here recently who did something like this, but I think it was a surprise...something like her sister called her on Skype and it turned out to be a shower

I think it's weird. The only reason I go to showers is to see and support the bride (or groom!) If I found out they were not attending, I would skip. If we were close, I'd have a shower gift sent to your house instead.

Showers really aren't that fun. Take the couple out of the picture and I think I'd want to be there even less.

It might be fun for the guests to play games and have a party, but I can't imagine it would be fun for you to Skype in on it. It also appears gift grabby to me.

No bride, no shower IMO.

That sounds horrible. I'd be pissed as a guest.

Shower games are awful. I only go to a shower to socialize with the bride. It would be so weird to be in a room with a bunch of people that all know the bride, but not have the bride there. If they really want to throw you a shower, you need to travel home for the shower or politely say no.

All my family and friends are in CT and I'm in FL. If I can't make it to CT, there will be no shower. The bride HAS to be there. That's not something you can do on skype.

Seems odd and gift grabby. I've gone to one shower where the guest of honor wasn't there, but it was my cousins baby shower and she was in the hospital after having her son prematurely. It was still a bit uncomfortable for everyone there.

If I knew the bride wouldn't be there you couldn't get my butt to that shower. Tell your MOH and FSIL thanks, but no thanks.

Uncomfortable and gift grabby. Nope.