Bridal Shower- who gets invited?

First it would be good to find out what your MOH can manage in terms of numbers. I think just choose the people closest to you. OOTG's don't need an invite.

We invited all the women invited to the wedding and they sent out a recipe card with the invitation. If the person couldn't make it they mailed the recipe card back still. It was a cute way to include everyone and now I have an awesome recipe book

I would first find out from your MOHs how many people they can afford to host.

You can invite who you want. Personally I would invite close friends and family. I wouldn't invite every single female invited to the wedding just because it can come off as gift grabby. If you're not close to one of FH's random cousin then don't invite her.

Whatever you do, only invite those invited to the wedding.

One of the first things I asked them was what was the number of ppl they felt comfortable with. Their response was "However many you want, we will work off the people you want there"

I definitely don't want to seem gift grabby

I guess I'm more worried on the if I invite one of FH's aunts do I have to invite them all kinda deal.

I invited close girl friends, mothers, grandmothers, aunts, bridesmaids, and cousins. Total count for me was 24. My bridal shower is at a restaurant though.

We did a wedding shower (bridal shower and honey-do together). We just invited immediate family - sisters, parents, aunts, uncles, grandparents, and then the bridal party.

At the time, I liked it that way. We didn't have to have multiple parties, we didn't feel like we left many people out because we just invited the same level of family on both sides, and it was a semi small area... However, (not that I was in it for the gifts) but I got told by three different people that they would have given us a gift if they had been invited to a shower. Like... What? Not that I wanted them to come to the wedding for a gift, but they didn't bring a gift and purposely made it a point to not bring us one and inform us we would've gotten one if they had been invited.

People make no sense to me.

We're inviting every lady that's coming to our wedding. We have a 50 person wedding and almost all of those people are couples so we're inviting about 25ish people. Yes, we're close to all of them.

@MrsMcPherson wow! I wouldn't even care that they didn't give me a gift (not saying that you did) Obviously if I invite you to our wedding is because we want to be able to celebrate with you. But to be petty and bring attention to the fact you didn't bring a gift BECAUSE you weren't invited to the shower is just...ewww. I can't believe it happened to you more than once. WTH

@Bee see I can see that. But if I put all the women invited to the wedding on the list for the Bridal Shower it'd be at least 60. I would definitely not feel comfortable putting my MOHs through that when they are being kind enough to host this in the first place.

What's a 'honey-do'?

Just make sure that everyone invited to the shower gets an invitation to the wedding! I've seen showers where the bride's family hosts one, and the groom's family is invited, then the groom's family hosts one and invites the bride's family. If you invite one aunt, you must invite them all barring any circumstances where there is an estrangement. For my shower, it was my close female relatives on my mom's side, my mom's closest friends, and the ladies at our church. It was wonderful!