Bridal Shower...who attends?

In my area, it's not normal for the FH to attend. Men weren't invited either. My dad showed up after the majority of the guests left to help load up the gifts in my car.

Whether or not the groom attends is up to the two of you, usually. Typical tradition is they come at the end but I've been to several where they stay the whole time.

Mine was given the option and elected to show up towards the end to help load gifts, say thank you to people, and mingle. I cannot imagine he'd be comfortable opening dozens of gifts with an audience of all women so this wasn't a surprise.

Mine is coming at the end. My FH will have lunch with my dad, nephew and brother in law. He will come at the end to thank everyone and help load up the car. I'm sure he will have a beer and chat with people we don't get to see often. I've never been to a shower where the groom was present for the whole thing but I think it's personal preference.

Mine isn't as he will be out of town. If anything I'd have him come at the end if he was around. I think the new trend of FH attending a lot of times are coed showers where men are invited too.

Mine is coming in the beginning to say hello and at the end to load the car

I had my shower yesterday and we invited family and my one BM who isn't family. My aunt didn't want to host 60 people so we skipped friends. Plus my friends are not shower people. My FH showed up at the end to thank the hosts and pack up all the gifts.

Thanks everyone! This helped! I will probably have him come at the end!

FH did not attend my bridal shower. I have been to many showers (at least a dozen) over 7-8 years and I have never been to a shower where the FH was there.

It's tradition for the groom to show up near the end with flowers and thank everyone and help load the car with gifts. Also, you may be thinking the new alternative to having a traditional bridal shower is Jack and Jill where the males can attend the party and it's more of like tickets and raising money for the bride and the groom. I think it's a kinda of tacky and I prefer enjoying the time with my female loved ones and celebrating the bride to be

My shower had a lot of men, FH, his dad, my dad, his uncles and mine too...as well as a few cousins.

Depends on what the two of you want!

I'm old school and feel bridal showers are for the women, but now days anything goes, so it's really up to you. Sounds like FH doesn't want to come though, so my answer would be that he does not need to attend. A brief appearance at the end to say thank you and help load the car is nice though

My mom is throwing me a backyard shower next Saturday and my FH will be there along with the best man and a few of my guy friends. Nothing traditional here just having a Bridal BBQ doesn't matter if guys show up

My shower is a jack and Jill poker game shower so my FH will be there

Mine was out of town for both my showers. In my area, they don't come at all, not even at the end like I've read so many posters did.

The only boys at my showers were under the age of 3, otherwise it was all women.

I haven't had mine yet but my FH and any other men that come along (father, FFIL, brothers, ect...) are gonna grill outside and probably have a few beers while all the women do the Bridal shower stuff and come in towards the end

@Amanda and Stephanie

There is a huge difference between a coed shower and a tacky fundraiser for your wedding. The former is just like a traditional one, but usually in the evening and more like a cocktail party for couples to celebrate the bride and groom with optional gifts.

A jack and Jill is an outdated leftover from when people had little money and hard lives on the frontier. Only heard of Canadians doing it. If it is actually a new thing for your area, absolutely don't do it because your guests will have no idea what it is and be offended to be used to pay for your wedding.

@OP

My FI will come at the end of my women only shower to thank everyone and help load the gifts.

In my circle the groom is always there for the entirety of the shower. If it's a women's only shower, toward the end the dads typically show up. It would be odd to give a gift and have only one half of the couple receive it

@ Mrs.FallBride...my FH has offered to drop me off and pick me up from mine as well so I think it would be best for him to stop by at the end and thank everyone without having to actually be there during the shower

We had two showers and H came to both. The first was one his mom threw and it was mostly people I hadn't met, so he came the whole time so I didn't feel awkward. The second was in Kenosha (approx. 2 hours away) that my MOH threw in my hometown. Since we traveled for it, she gave him the option to stay the whole time and he did.

I have been to a couple of showers where the FH is there to help open presents. Usually for Hungarian weddings. Other showers, usually FH shows up towards the end.

Jack and Jills/Stag and Does that require tickets and raffles i.e. not couple's showers have been around since at least the late 70s, at least in my area.