Bridal Shower When Already Married

I think anyone who would side eye your situation is a terrible person. So, no- I wouldn't worry about it at all. Enjoy your shower!

Absolutely not! You're still having the other wedding festivities as planned. I would completely understand the situation and wouldn't think a thing about it. I'd actually probably be happier to attend and give you that experience since the actual wedding had to happen so suddenly and under unfortunate circumstances. Sorry again about your father passing. So happy you were able to have the memories that you did

Hmmm have they printed the invites yet? because maybe you could name it something different? I, personally, wouldn't see a problem with it since they had no ability to adjust the shower date to reflect your having got married early.

Given the situation I would have no problem with this at all. Go for it!

I wouldn't, especially knowing the situation.

I doubt anybody will mind, especially given your dad's illness and passing. FH's aunts were planning one for me, but I had to rush back home because my dad fell ill, so they were going to postpone it till after the wedding. So I'm guessing people really don't mind whether it's before or after when it is because of unfortunate circumstances beyond your control.

Also, I'm really sorry for your loss. Sending you good thoughts!

Like @future said, i wouldn't side-eye the event, i may side-eye it being called a bridal shower? It can still be a bridal shower, centered around "gifts" and i wouldn't mind- are you still getting "married" 9/12, was the earlier ceremony private just family, etc... were all these people there for your early wedding?

Considering your situation I think you're fine.

Absolutely not! Anyone who would think less of you is a terrible person. The people attending your shower will most likely know and understand the situation so I wouldn't worry too much about it

Have the shower and enjoy every minute. Anyone who would think less of ypu in this situation should be told to stick it someplace unpleasant.

@e=mc2 The earlier ceremony was just our parents and SIL. It was private, but we have been telling everyone. We are going to change the ceremony in September to a Vow Renewal instead of a regular ceremony since we are legally married.

Thank you all for your input. I didnt think most people would have an issue.

@ Future JKR The invites were sent out prior to my dad passing but after we got married. I believe it just says shower on them.

I can't imagine anyone judging you for doing this, especially given the situation. I say go for it.

And if they have a problem, ask them to come to WW and we'll tell 'em.

Anyone that knows of the situation should not give you the side eye. I would be happy to still celebrate with the bride in your case.

There's absolutely nothing wrong with this and if anyone gives you side eye, they have issues.

I think you deserve to have a beautiful shower and a beautiful vow renewal in September.

I don't see anything wrong with it! I'm sure they all understand why it's happening this way.

Nope. I would even be fine with it being called a bridal shower due to the circumstances. It's not like you were planning this all along.

Anyone that is invited to the shower probably knows about the absolutely delicate situation that you were put in. I would say, if I received a shower invite for a friend that went through what your family did, it would be a wonderful opportunity to celebrate you. I am sure no one would care. If they do, they'd be in the minority.