Skip to main content

Post content has been hidden

To unblock this content, please click here

Moose
Dedicated July 2017

Bridal Shower v. "Bridal Luncheon"

Moose, on December 14, 2016 at 12:54 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 5

So I know my mom is upset that she doesn't get to plan our wedding herself (in her day, moms did the whole thing and it was more a party for the parents) so she's going to do a bridal shower for me.

She asked me to send her a list of people I wanted to come. I sent her a list of 14 people (our wedding is only 100) and said she could add her own people too. She responded by saying that is a list for a "bridal luncheon," not a "bridal shower." I thought a bridal luncheon was only bridesmaids (5 people). But according to her, all of her friends, my fiancé's friends wives (most of whom I've only met a few times), and extended family are expected to come to the bridal shower.

Honestly I'll invite whoever she wants to make her happy, but all I see are "bridesmaids luncheons" not "bridal luncheons." Is a bridal luncheon a thing? Do all of the female wedding attendees come to a bridal shower or just main people?

5 Comments

Latest activity by Emma, on December 14, 2016 at 1:34 PM
  • Nonna T
    Master April 2014
    Nonna T ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    Bridal shower=shower the bride with gifts

    Bridal luncheon=have lunch with the bride/introductions

    • Reply
  • FreshToDeathAng
    Master September 2016
    FreshToDeathAng ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    I think a luncheon is more of a get-together without the expectation of gifts, just a way to celebrate.

    And with regards to who is invited to a shower, you can really do whatever you want. Some people only invite close friends/family, and some invite every female wedding guest. Mine was a mix of both, but leaned more towards MOST female wedding guests with the exception of those that were out of town and I knew couldn't travel for it.

    ETA - There is nothing wrong with keeping your shower small if that's what you prefer.

    • Reply
  • OGJessieJV
    Master July 1867
    OGJessieJV ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    Ang and Nonna have answered your question.

    As for the showers, I think it's regional how many attend. Where I'm from showers are usually done in banquet halls and have about 100 people attend.

    From what I can tell on these boards, showers are down there are much smaller, usually only about 25-30 people.

    • Reply
  • Moose
    Dedicated July 2017
    Moose ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    How interesting! Thanks, guys!

    • Reply
  • Emma
    Master May 2017
    Emma ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    I don't know the difference, but I'm having a bridal shower. Only the women from the guest list are invited, and only the ones in state. We have a bunch of cousins across the country, lol. So it'll be less than 30.

    • Reply

You voted for . Add a comment 👇

×


WeddingWire celebrates love ...and so does everyone on our site! Learn more

Rockstars

  • D
    Getting married in 07/03/2025

Groups

WeddingWire article topics