Bridal shower same weekend as wedding?

Side note we are having a Monday wedding so timing wise it works out.

This might depend on your personality. If you are a mover and a shaker and like to always be on the move then yeah, go for it. If you know for sure that you want to do this then that gives you a heads up to make sure all your loose ends are tied up too.

We just did a little wine and small get together the night before her wedding for our bride recently. We are out of state BMs so we each wrote a thoughtful note and got cute lingerie and had s drink after the rehearsal dinner. Maybe something really low key.

Who is planning / suggesting this?

I'm the one suggesting it, I'd be hopeful my BMs would plan it. And would of course run it past them. Although this would make it a super crazy weekend for them too. My FH isn't into it. May have to bail on the idea. I just won't ever have family at my bridal shower then! :-( I'll get over it.

You shouldn't be planning your own shower. I understand with the OOT family and BMs why you're trying to think ahead about this, but you shouldn't be planning or suggesting your own shower at all.

I think it would be tough. If I were you, I would not plan a shower the weekend of the wedding and plan a lunch or something with your family or whoever is missing the shower instead.

Well, usually you get a bridal shower if someone decides to throw one for you.

I don't think its appropriate to ask this of your bridesmaids. That will put extra stress on them, and perhaps they are not financially able to host. Food, drinks, decorations, etc.... If they have the time, money, and desire to throw you a shower - they will. I don't think you should suggest it or as them to plan one.

It's asking a lot of your guests to bring multiple gifts for one weekend.

Maybe not? I'd like some semblance of calm before my wedding and that doesn't sound calm to me

I would think that's a lot but I see where you just want to include OOT in the whole weekend. Just think if you have any last minute things you may need to do probably can't do them. Would you ever consider having bridal shower 2 or 1 month before the wedding.

What if all your BMs are OOT except 2 and I have 10?