Bridal shower- non traditional?

It's not weird at all. It's your shower, make it what you want

Do what you want. That sounds like a lot of fun!

Coed showers are common. Have an I do BBQ, sounds fun!

Jack and Jill showers are becoming more common. Also, my friend had hers be a display shower, meaning that the gifts weren't wrapped (or wrapped in clear so they were visible) so she didn't have to spend 2 hours opening gifts. I'm not sure what I'm doing yet, but I also like the sound of that!

You can have any kind of shower that your host wishes to give. The nature/guestlist is basically up to the host though. As long as everyone going to the shower is also invited to the wedding.

I'd go to your shower, as planned, co-ed and by the lake, happily. I can't say I always feel that way about showers.

I agree with PP that your shower should be what you want. You don't have to spend the whole time opening gifts or playing awkward games. I had one couple's shower and one traditional where the former was open boxed and otherwise a cocktail party.

However, you shouldn't be planning your own shower. Someone else has to host it and plan it or you look uber gift grabby. What are your shower host/s thoughts on this?

It is not wired, I like BBQ beside lake, I think that is a wonderful idea

Nope made it known I didn't want one. The BBQ sounds like a great idea to get everyone together.

If a "traditional" bridal shower is what is normal in your area and your hosts are local, this could come as a surprise for them and like Kate said, double the guest list and make for a bigger budget requirement. A compromise might be having the shower at a time of day that wouldn't require a full meal to be served, but still have fun hanging out with the men and women.

It is your day, it should be how you want it.

I like that idea way better! My shower was so AWKWARD. This co-ed shower sounds almost like a house-warming party vibe, which would be totally cool and relaxed. I especially like the "display" style instead of having to unwrap gifts in front of people. That was the most awkward part of my shower... it was completely silent and I was having a miniature panic attack in my brain from the uncomfortableness of it!

That sounds amazing! Do it exactly the way you want it! Its for you and your FH, no one else

While my shower was fun, I deff would have liked if it was co-ed. And a BBQ is so much more fun - go for it!

I've been to a few showers like this - they are always a lot of fun!

I did a traditional shower for my family, but for my friend group, I did a combined Shower/Bachelorette party and it was a blast. I still had to open all the gifts, but it was hilarious because I would open a box of say, water glasses, but there would be a pair of panties stuffed in each one. I also got a TON of wine for some reason....not that I'm complaining about that!

Thanks all! My hosts have asked for my input and ideas- they actually suggested a lake house party. So they're in!

This is kind of how mine went! It was 2 hours in the afternoon, all the gifts came unwrapped. There was a lot of food and drinks. Everyone was able to chat with each other and just hang out. A ton of people came up to us and said it was the best shower they had ever been to!

More and more people are doing co-ed showers. I think showers are one of the last things to stray stray from tradition. I mean no matter how untraditional the wedding is, you'll notice that all showers are roughly the same. I say ask for youd like. I'm sure everyone else will be happy, too!