Bridal shower mother in law drama

Has she talked about WHY she wants to throw a separate shower? I don't think it's that big of a deal, but it's also a shower so you don't really have a say! Tell your BMs they don't have to show up.

Could FMIL limit the guest for the shower she hosts to members of your FH's family and friends? The other shower could be for your side of the family and your friends. The bridesmaids don't have to attend both or any showers.

Just let her throw you a shower, but keep yours bridesmaids off the guest list for that one.

My MIL threw us a couple's shower and invited my parents, DH's family, and DH's friends. My BP hosted a bridal shower and I kept the guestlist to my friends, mom, and female relatives.

2 showers are not uncommon where I am. Let her do it - but don't make the BM go if they've already been to one.

My FMIL didn't even show up to my shower! I think you are so lucky and you should let her throw you one and invite your Mom to come with you instead of the bridal party.

Agree with pp, just let her throw one and tell your bridesmaids they don't have to go. My MIL threw a couples shower for her side of the family, but that was out of town, so none of my bridesmaids felt obligated to go.

She basically said she wanted a separate shower to make it easier on her so she doesn't have to coordinate with my mom. They've only met once (we've been trying for years to get our parents to meet and his mom always brushed it off saying we weren't serious enough for her to meet them) so I don't know if it was just something that made her uncomfortable or if she is just preferring to throw one solo. She's said my wedding party and parents are invited, so that was kind of her. I guess I just always envisioned one shower so our families could get to know one another. Either way I don't want to go looking a gift horse in the mouth, just wasn't sure if there was any middle ground to be found on this one. Thank you for the feedback!

Yeah just tell the BM's they don't have to attend the second shower. It's not unusual for more than one person to throw a shower.

I see this as a non issue. Just enjoy!

Just decline! If you don't have a large guest list, I agree there is no point of having 2 showers. Tell her you really appreciate her generous offer, but you do not want a second shower.

I wish I had your problem of having 2 bridal showers - I'm a long distance bride and don't get to have any! She wants to do something nice for you, embrace it and have fun. Guests know they don't need to go to duplicate events.

So nothing is wrong with two showers just don't require you BM to attend. Maybe your MIL wants an intimate one with you and the family so don't be alarmed or stressed.

If it were me I would decline the shower. It's very important to me that FH family and my family get a chance to mingle before the wedding. If her reasoning was because of guests travel or schedules I would completely understand. But her reasoning is she doesn't want to have to coordinate with anyone else. If she isn't going to make an effort to get to know your mom I wouldn't make the effort to accommodate a separate shower.

I'm having two showers. One from my FMIL and mom (they both wanted to do it together) which will be at home for family and then the director of the rescue of I volunteer with offered to throw me on for all my friends at college so they wouldn't have to travel. Can you have seperate guest lists for each like other pp have said? My BMs are going to the one closest to them