Bridal Shower, is it rude...

If they're asking, it's not rude. It would be different if you knew they were planning a shower so you started insisting on things being done a certain way. Nothing wrong with helping with ideas, but you should not be involved with any of the actual planning, aside from ideas.

Right! I just like simplicity. They wanted to offer a party and so it's them doing it. I don't even think they will tell me about it until the day of lol. They like surprises thanks!

Not rude at all

Yes, it's fine, when asked, to give some simple suggestions. Enjoy!

I'm confused, your post said they were asking for opinions. Now your saying they want to keep it a surprise?

Not rude! My BM's ask me about everything for mine. Lol.

Kathryn I think they are asking me what I like but since I am staying 100% out of the planning, it will be a surprise to me of what they do. My MIL has helped throw her niece's shower and she didn't tell her a single thing other than what she liked. Everything else, even what day it was on, was a surprise to her.

I think it's ok to say you would love a brunch. But I would stop there. The rest is up to them. If you give too many specific ideas, they might be challenged to stay within their budget.

I think it's fine. My sister is throwing mine and directly asked me for ideas. I gave her a few along with a guest list and have not looked back since.

My sister(MOH) did the same thing where she wanted to know what I wanted but to keep it a surprise! If she asks it's fine to give input.

They asked you what you wanted so just tell them. Honesty is always appreciated! They will probably be relieved to hear that it is something simple!

I was pretty much forced to have a shower. Friends said pick a shower or bachelorette party! I chose the lesser of the evils! Haha

Then I was told to register somewhere, UGH. At BB&B I put what I NEEDED on the list and then they complained it was not fun shopping for me. I couldn't win. (Pots and pans, linens, glasses and a knife) Oh well.

We put "no gifts please" on our wedding invites. We are an established household.

It's not rude.

My MOH sat me down in March to ask what kind of things I liked/didn't like. Granted, I don't think she listened to a word I said because with some things she was planning to opposite. But who care? The end result was great and everyone had good time.