Bridal Shower Invites

You could just leave it blank. If people ask where you're registered just say you don't have one. Be prepared though, some people will still bring a check or random gift anyway. I don't want gifts at my shower either, so I'm dreading that part 😟

View Quoted Comment Check or random gift is totally fine with me. I just really don’t like the idea of saying what people should get me… if you know what I mean. I’ll consider leaving it blank but kinda wanted to acknowledge it. Hope your shower is amazing

A shower is for physical gifts. If you don’t want physical gifts, don’t have a shower because they are optional. If you don’t register, you will end up with random gifts such as engraved cutting boards and similar items that you don’t want and can’t return. Many on WW will say “people automatically gift cash” which is not true at all in a number of social circles and families.



Is there anything you and fiancé want to upgrade in your home? Anything you have had your eye on when shopping that you would not spend your own money on? Those things go on a registry regardless of how long you have lived together.
Depending on your social circle, some follow the etiquette that the bride does not host her own shower because it is a gift giving occasion. Others don’t care one way or the other. But there are people who will host it for you. And registry info goes in the shower invitation because that is the sole purpose of the shower. For the wedding itself, the registry information is given by word of mouth. Parents and grandparents and beyond for decades past have had no issues whatsoever passing along the information by word of mouth only.

View Quoted Comment There’s much more involved with the shower than physical gifts, which is the reason I decided to definitely have one. It’s an opportunity to get all the women in the families together and celebrate the bride, play games, etc. it’s not that I want or don’t want a certain something, but I don’t feel comfortable with saying “here’s a list of stuff you guys can get me” or “don’t get me a gift, give me cash!”. Basically I would like to say the gift is entirely up to you, but want to know if there are any good ways to say that on an invitation.

View Quoted Comment I would honestly call it a bridal luncheon rather than a shower. It's all the things you listed without the expectation of gifts. The issue with going without the registry is then you may end up with multiples of things (like 3 people bring you a toaster or something) and you may also get decor pieces that are not at all your taste. A registry gives people suggestions of things you would like. Some people do opt to purchase a gift that is not on the registry, but a registry is helpful for many. When I buy a gift for someone, I like knowing it is something they want and need. A registry ensures that I'm getting something the couple would like.

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If you wish to avoid physical gifts in the form of homewares (which are ordinarily given at bridal showers) I would rename the event like Hannah suggested. Otherwise, people will bring gifts and you will wind up with a bunch of homewares you may not need.

In response to what to note about gifts, I would simply avoid mentioning them.

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Who is hosting the shower for you? Maybe they could pass along your wishes?

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I would just leave it blank and if people ask if you have a registry you can give them the more detailed explanation personally. How close are you to the people coming to your shower? Are they all close personal friends and family or does it extend out to your parent's friends, extended relatives, etc.? That could help decipher the tone of the message.