Hey everyone! So my wedding is 02/23/2020 and my mom has just let me know that she's planning a bridal shower for me on 01/11/2020. Today she asked me for a list of people I want to invite and I asked her when she was planning on sending the shower invitations since we're sending our wedding invitations soon. Because the holidays are just around the corner, we're sending our wedding invitations out a little early during the first week of December. My mom told me that bridal shower invites should be sent before the wedding invites. I honestly hadn't thought about this so I figured I'd do some research. Articles I've read online disagree with her and say that wedding invites should go out first, but some say that save the dates tend to bridge the etiquette gap for when bridal shower/wedding invitations going out. We did send save the dates to family members, but friends/coworkers I want to invite to the shower didn't receive a save the date.
So what do you guys think? Should one definitely be sent before the other, does sending save the dates change the "rule", or does it even matter?
Disclaimer: Everyone invited to the shower is also invited to the wedding, so no worries there 
Thanks as always!
