Bridal Shower Invite/rsvp question

It shouldn’t be you. It should be one of the hosts. None of this should really be up to you, either, so if your mom wants it to be hers and FMILs info that’s what it should be.

I wouldn't use yours. I would ask mom and FMIL who would like to take the lead on handling RSVPs, and only use their contact info.

Nope, it needs to be the host. Just put your mom's info down, you don't need to have 2 people's contact info on there.

One person handles it. One person, one phone number, one email. Otherwise, its too unorganized. It should be your mother or FMIL.

Nope, can't be you. And make sure you have at least an email address, I know it was already mentioned, but people just don't call 'strangers' like they used to.

Definitely should not be you. My mom and MOH are planning mine, and they put one of their numbers and emails down. Ask which one wants to take the lead for this and maybe the other can take the lead on another aspect of it. But you definitely should not put your info on it at all.

It def shouldnt be you. I would choose one or the other not both. And just a phone number no email

Thank you everyone for your imput! I'll definitely ask who wants to take the lead in the RSVP's.

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They could also create a new email address for just RSVPs, that way they can both check it. Think MelissasShower@gmail, or something easy like that.

Please RSVP:

Mom's Name: 555-555-5555

MOH's Name: ***********@*****.***

I've gotten a few invites to this. Older people who aren't as comfortable with email will happily call a "stranger" or even more happily call a friend/relative to RSVP, younger people who wouldn't pick up the phone to make a phone call no matter what will email, regardless of whether they know the person or not.

It won't be too hard for the two of them to pool responses for the RSVPs.

Your name should only be listed as the person who the shower is for. Not to call/text/RSVP or anything else. It makes it look like it as it is you planning your own party and gift grabby. I suggest picking one person for the RSVP’s. Also, everyone does things in their own way so perhaps even if you think your MOH isn’t organized like you I am sure she is able to answer a call or text and keep track of who is coming or not.

Don't put your name down as who to RSVP to, it makes it look like you're throwing the shower yourself to receive gifts which bothers a lot of people. I would also recommend only having one person to RSVP to and maybe by call/text instead of email because that's normally easier for people. My mom did call/text for my shower and she got all the RSVPs before the due date, most people texted except a few older family members who called

Agree with everyone here that the RSVPs should go to the host, not you. As far as your other question regarding shower registry - yes, you can put this information directly on the shower invitation. This is the only time you can. Do not put it on your wedding invitation.