Bridal Shower-invite my friend's wife?

Ehhhhh, I'd be torn on this. I have a few people like this on my "maybe" list, so following to see what people say.

I think you should go for it! If you like her as a person and if you think she will continue to be your friend in the future it would be a great bonding experience. And plus it always feels nice to get an invite to something that you didn't think you would be invited to! If you both have a positive attitude and want to be friends then it should go smoothly!

It would be a nice gesture!

I think you should! It'd be kinda sucky to invite her husband and leave her out, IMO

I would not. I only gave my moh the women that were the main invitee/not a SO or +1 to the shower. But it's your shower so it's up to you.

Wait, why isn't the co-worker invited?

I would do it. It's a nice gesture and allows you to get to know her better.

@AL I'm assuming she isn't inviting the male coworker to the shower as many showers are female only events (I had a mix of ladies only and co-ed showers though..)

I'd invite if you'd like to form a friendship with her....at worst she wont come, but at least cant feel excluded...

I'm going to go the other way here and say don't invite her. I was invited to the bridal shower for the fiance of one of DH's friends and was kind of annoyed about it. We're friendly socially, but never hang out one on one, don't have each other's phone numbers, and that's all fine. But when I got the invite to her shower I turned it down because I wouldn't know anyone and still sent her a nice gift for her shower. Since showers are a gift giving event I'd keep it to the people you're close with!

It's a really sweet gesture to want to be inclusive, but bridal showers aren't always the most fun even if it is for one of your closest friends

@APZ that's correct. We are only inviting ladies.

Thanks for all your thoughts. I'm leaning towards inviting her. I especially think it might be nice since we are having a DW in Vegas and it might be a nice way to meet some of my other girlfriends beforehand.

@APZ, I just don't understand the point of a female-only shower. Who only has female friends? It seems to 1950 to me.

I was invited to a bridal shower for the FS of my FH's friend.

I ended up going, but I felt super awkward and uncomfortable at the time. I knew her and met her a handful of times but literally knew no one else. I basically stood around and ate and left after presents because I felt like an intruder.

It could be just my personality, but figured I'd give you an anecdote for the invited.

I don't think you need to invite her.

If I was in her shoes and received an invite, I wouldn't go. I think it's kind of weird if you two aren't actually friends.

Personally, I would not invite her. To me, shower invites were for closest family and friends only. However, you may feel differently and would like to extend the invite to her and that's fine.

AL sorry, I'm not sure why you find this so shocking - the vast majority of bridal showers are still just women. It's very common and the OP's shower is clearly that format as well. I don't understand why you are surprised that a male co-worker of her FH isn't invited to a bridal shower. Co-Ed showers are certainly an option but not everyone chooses to do that.

My FH plans on attending the shower and im happy he wants to be involved I don't think a shower has to be females only either but thay is the way most still do it.

Thanks for all your thoughts everyone! It seems like everyone is pretty split and it may really just come down to each person's personality.

@Emily, I just think it's antiquated to only invite women, and to invite someone's wife when you are friends with the man.

I think it would be a nice gesture.

I got invited to a male coworker's wife's shower and honestly found it annoying. I met her a few times, we were friendly, but it seemed like a gift grab

ETA: I will add that they were already married (and I was one of a few people who knew about it) when the shower happened - so that may have colored my decision a little. However, I think I still would have been annoyed.