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Bridal shower invitation/registry ?

WoW, on March 6, 2016 at 11:30 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 9

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I'm not even sure how to word this. I'm MOH for my SIL wedding in May. She has 9 bridesmaids, including me, in her wedding party. We are all hosting a bridal shower for her on April 9. SIL has been telling me for over a month (maybe longer) she's going to register. I'm handling the invites. I've let her know when I ideally would like to have invites out, which is this weekend. She still isn't registered and I know she isn't worried about it.

She's the bride, I can't force her to register, but isn't it a little "tacky" to not at least do a small registry?

Any suggestions on sending out the invites? do I just wait? just send out the invites w/out a registry and see if she does one?

I know I am a bit OCD when it comes to following time lines, so maybe I'm getting anxious a little too early?

TIA

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Latest activity by Nancy Taussig, on March 6, 2016 at 12:44 PM

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Kristina K. · on March 6, 2016 at 11:36 AM
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When is the actual shower? If it's coming up soon, I'd get the invites out (with an insert stating registry info is forthcoming) and when she finally does register, let everyone know.
I've been to showers where the bride and groom just wanted money and didn't register. Let's just say it was hysterical watching them open gifts at their co-Ed shower.
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MrsA · on March 6, 2016 at 11:36 AM
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Showers and registries rather go hand in hand, so she should. Unless she doesn't want to register and would rather have a bridal luncheon without gifts? I don't believe in registries and told people not to throw me a shower. My MOH surprised me with a luncheon instead which I loved.
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Mrs. RATR · on March 6, 2016 at 11:37 AM
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It isn't tacky for her not to do a registry, but it IS tacky for her to have a bridal shower without a registry. The whole point of a shower is for her to get physical gifts from people. Does she realize that?
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Kristina · on March 6, 2016 at 11:38 AM
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Wow, I hate doing registry's (have kids so have done them before) and I'm not even as bad as that. I agree, you do want to give the bridal shower guests advance notice. My FSIL started adding more stuff to mine because I'm bad at it. I would either give her a deadline, ask her what she wants, or add some stuff. Because as a bridal shower guests, soon as I receive the invites I am looking. Hopefully others have better suggestions :/
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Kerri · on March 6, 2016 at 11:38 AM
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I love the idea of just a luncheon.
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Brooke · on March 6, 2016 at 11:39 AM
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Is she just wanting a celebration. Or is she looking for cash? I think there's a difference...
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ZeldaBride · on March 6, 2016 at 11:41 AM
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Yeah, this may end up being just a party, and not actually a shower, because like Lynn said, a shower is held to "shower" the bride with gifts. If there are no gifts, it's just a gathering of women to eat, drink, and play games.
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FutureMrsReno · on March 6, 2016 at 11:45 AM
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The last wedding I was in, the bride did not register before her shower, but did register before the wedding. I can't remember how they worded it on the shower invitation, "Michelle likes to shop @ Crate & Barrel, Williams & Sonoma" etc. I can't remember for sure, but it was something like that.
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Nancy Taussig · on March 6, 2016 at 12:44 PM
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Can the shower have a theme in order to give guests some ideas for gifts?
Kitchen, lingerie, stock the bar, etc.?
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