I live two states away from my hometown, in the same city as my FH and his whole family, and most of our friends.
When my mother found out my FMIL was throwing me a bridal shower, she also wanted to throw me one. Our wedding is small (80 ppl) and probably only 15 are from my home town, so my mom wants to invited extended family that is NOT invited to the wedding. Otherwise, this bridal shower would be like 5 people.
My mom understands this is not good etiquette, and so has this idea to make it more informal. People don't need to bring gifts, it's more "open house" style where people can pop in and out to say hi to me (I don't see them often) and there will be food etc.
I have mixed feelings about the whole affair, but regardless, it is happening, period. Declining would set off an avalanche of animosity between mom and FMIL.
QUESTION: How do I word the invites to reflect all of this? (Mom wants me to do it because I'm "so good with words"...)
