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Caitie
Beginner April 2021

Bridal shower help?

Caitie, on May 4, 2020 at 9:37 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 3
Hi everyone!

I’m starting to gear up planning for my destination wedding in April of next year. When my FH and I got engaged last summer, my FH’s aunt immediately told me she wants to host my bridal shower when that time comes, as we are very close with his aunt and uncle. Since then, she has been diagnosed with a brain tumor. She is handling treatment really well and is doing great, but obviously it takes a toll. We haven’t talked about my bridal shower at all since it was originally brought up and now I do not know how to mention it again once it gets closer. I obviously do not want her to have to take on the burden of hosting if she is not up for it (definitely now with different circumstances), but I also do not want to take it away from her if she still wants to host!

My question is, how do I approach this when the wedding gets closer? I don’t want to make her feel bad, but I also want to express that she is under no pressure to still host the shower! There are a ton of people who will also step up and help, but I just don’t want her to feel uncomfortable or embarrassed.
Help!

3 Comments

Latest activity by Lynnie, on May 6, 2020 at 5:56 PM
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    I would wait for her to bring it up.
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  • M
    VIP January 2019
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    I would also wait for her to bring it up. If, in the meantime, someone else offers to throw you a shower, feel free to accept. If that other (hypothetical) person is close with this aunt, you could mention the previous offer to them and then they can decide if they want to mention it to her. For so many reasons, it's really best if you take the backseat here and let others lead.

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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
    Lynnie ·
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    Hi Caitie! I agree with Caytlyn & Maggie and would wait for her to bring it up and offer again!

    Thankfully you've got plenty of time, so you can wait for awhile!

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