Bridal Shower - Guests all over?

OMG! My situation is almost identical! We live in CA, wedding in NH. Our BP and parents (and my girlfriends that I would love to invite to a shower) are spread ALL over the country... 9 different states. So, my MOH (my sister in MA) and I decided we're just not going to do one.

We considered these options though:

1. Have a website that has some "games", some "bride & groom" facts, someplace to submit recipes and our registry. My MOH would mail out postcards "inviting" guests to my online bridal shower, and supplying the link. I decided these seemed too much like gift grubbing and voted NO.

2. Have a virtual shower, via skype, my MOH would advise everyone via postcard that they're invited to it and encourage them to mail me a wrapped gift by a certain date - then on that date we would all gather together on skype (and those that live near my MOH would all get together there) and via skype I would open my gifts. I decided that I really don't even like people (CONT'D)

Watching me open gifts, so having them watch on skype would just be even worse for me. So I voted NO.

3. I will be in NH a week before the wedding, so she considered throwing a shower when I first get there - in which probably 10-12 people would be close enough in distance to make the trip. But I decided that having a shower just a week before the wedding seemed too tacky to me.

So... I just told her to forget it. We're blessed as it is... we didn't need a shower for more gifts. Besides, we want kids - so she can throw me a baby shower! (That was good enough for her!)

Good luck solving your problem... and yay for another NH bride!

Danielle, I'm so glad I'm not the only one! My FMIL was thinking of having breakfast catered at the hair salon the morning of the wedding, so I was thinking that might be a good place/time to do it, but I really hate the idea of just asking for more "stuff". Is the point of a shower just to give gifts meant solely for the bride? If it is, I'm not sure I'm even all that excited about it...I'd really rather call the whole thing off, but she's so excited about it. Maybe I'll suggest a baby shower for when I'm 50 and decide it's the right time to have kids :-P

So I had this problem too... My mom best friend who is like my other mom actually threw my shower but my MOH (my sister who lives in Hawaii) helped out the day of, setting things up and such... All my bridesmaids are all over and only 3 of the 5 actually came to the shower... for the rest of the people I invited important out of town guests, like FMIL, and my aunts, but i didn't really invite any of FH family, they aren't really close anyways. I also just invited the people who were invited that lived in town... mostly my mom's friends and their daughters that i did sports with way back when... Just invite the people you want to be there and then the people in town... A bridal shower isn't supposed to have to many people, I had about 20 of my 35 show up. Or just don't have one! another option is having it like the week of the wedding when everyone is in town...