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MrsKAllTheWay
Super October 2012

Bridal Shower Gift Opening

MrsKAllTheWay, on July 11, 2012 at 3:40 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 12
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I recently went to my girlfriend's bridal shower. She has 6(ish?) bridesmaids and to tackle the huge pile of "loot" they each opened 1 gift at a time to get through everything quicker. Is it just me, or does this sound kinda tacky? The actual bride opened my gift, but I think I would have been a little bummed if one of the other girls opened it. KWIM? Not to say she is unappreciative or anything, it just seemed like a huge clusterf***. It was confusing as a "watcher" and I didn't really know where to look AND they didn't even get through the gifts any sooner (at least I don't think they did) because after a BM would open their "assigned" gift, they held it on their lap so the bride could see it. Needless to say, over an hour and 1/2 later they were still opening gifts...

So, my question for you ladies is: how are you or did you tackle opening gifts at your bridal shower? Any creative ideas?

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  • krisalicious
    Master April 2012
    krisalicious ·
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    Yeah, that's weird to me.

    I had a BM on one side who was doing some "pre-opening" and handing me gifts. So, the boxes that had been shipped were sliced open and ready to go with the cards on top, so I didn't have to fumble around with packing tape.

    I had another BM on the other side that I passed the gifts to. She separated the packaging from the cards/gift cards/cash (there were some checks) and handed them off to someone else who made a pile.

    Another BM compiled the list of what was from whom.

    And then another BM kept the eyes off me in between gifts by reading trivia questions every few minutes. Kind of like a newlywed game.

    Needless to say it took a village.

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  • LovedOurWedding
    Super October 2012
    LovedOurWedding ·
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    Wow I don't like that at all!!! I would totally be bummed if my gift was not opened by the bride. There is a way to have opened a lot of gifts quickly with the help of the 6 bridesmaids in different ways.

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  • MrsKAllTheWay
    Super October 2012
    MrsKAllTheWay ·
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    Kris, you are always so organized Smiley smile I think I'm going to pass that along to my MOH. Her and I have been trying to figure out a more interesting way to get through them all!

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  • Nichole
    Super July 2012
    Nichole ·
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    Hmm...I opened all my gifts at my shower myself. I actually had to rush through the last couple ones because unknown to me we had an appointment for pole dancing classes to get to. What was the rush to open the gifts?

    My bridesmaids handed me the gifts while another bridesmaid wrote down the gifts and who they were from. All the while the guests were playing a game but it didn't distract them from me opening the gifts.

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  • Ryann
    Super February 2013
    Ryann ·
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    I think that is odd and you should open your own gifts..

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  • Soon to be mr K
    Expert June 2013
    Soon to be mr K ·
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    Wow never heard of that before. I have seen what Krisalicious said, where it is a chain. But never the BM's actually opening the gifts.

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  • Blair
    VIP September 2012
    Blair ·
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    Im not opening my gifts at my shower. I hate it and I would rather sit around and talk with my guests.

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  • MrsKAllTheWay
    Super October 2012
    MrsKAllTheWay ·
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    I like the idea of having the guests do something while the bride opens gifts or at least breaking it up with gameshow-type questions. I guess there doesn't have to be a "rush" IMO it's just kind of a lot to sit for an hour and 1/2 and watch someone open gifts. I just don't find it that interesting and I don't want my guests to feel bored...idk.

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  • Christa
    Expert August 2012
    Christa ·
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    IMHO, not kinda tacky, that is WAY tacky. I, too, would be offended if the bride did not open my gift personally.

    For my shower, my mother prepared/handed me each gift, and my MOH recorded each gift and its giver and passed it around.

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  • krisalicious
    Master April 2012
    krisalicious ·
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    Haha well I'm German, OCD is in my blood. Smiley smile

    My BMs get all the credit for that organization though. I didn't lift a finger. Actually I couldn't physically lift anything heavier than 5 pounds b/c I'd just had pelvic surgery the week before and I was also high as a kite on painkillers. Not part of my master OCD wedding plan to have surgery 6 weeks before the wedding, but shiit happens, right? Anyway, I needed a little more help than the average bear and somebody was always at my fingers to help, I think they were paranoid I'd overdo it and bust a stitch or something. Smiley smile

    The newlywed game helped me a lot so I wasn't so self conscious. I'm social enough in normal situations but I get all weird and Chandler-ish when people are staring at me.

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  • MrsKAllTheWay
    Super October 2012
    MrsKAllTheWay ·
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    @Blair I didn't even know that was an option! Not sure if mom/MOH will let me get away with that, but I might have to mention it, lol.

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  • Aimee
    Devoted September 2012
    Aimee ·
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    At my cousin's her BM opened the card and started kind of opening the gifts before they got handed to her. That way she just kind of had to rip the wrapping paper off once and it was opened. I dont really know if it got things done any faster since we sat for 45 minutes watching.

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