Bridal Shower for a small wedding

There was just a post about this

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/bridal-shower-invite-guests-not-invited-to-wedding-bad-form/c36b6987a7508fe3.html

Generally, it's not considered proper etiquette to invite people to a bridal shower that are not invited to the wedding. People expect to be invited to the wedding if they are invited and attend a shower, so you are bound to have some problems.

I agree with Lisa. A bridal shower should only be for people invited to the wedding.

My MOH is letting everyone know it's just wishing well gathering no gifts are needed.

But I do agree with you both on this. Thanks

Anytime I've planned a bridal shower, I ask the bride to give me the guest list she wants. I would say if she wants to include people not on your wedding guest list, you can decline the shower.

You could maybe have a BBQ or something casual that YOU and FH host after your wedding, and maybe she could help with that? That way you could include all of those people in some sort of celebration to wish you well.

I like your idea Kris S. I am going to suggest that as well. I surely don't want to offend anyone. I just want things to be simple and fun. This is not about me getting any gifts, since in all honesty I don't really need anything. I just want to spend time with my friends. We are actually going back and forth on us registering for gifts.

Meh, I would still do a small registry of physical gifts. You don't have to advertise it, especially if you don't have a shower, but that way if someone says "What would you like?" you can say, "Oh thanks, we have a little registry at Macy's if you're interested".

Some people feel totally compelled to buy physical gifts for weddings, and that helps them out.

Good luck!!!