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Just Said Yes June 2020

Bridal Shower Family Help

Chrissy, on May 4, 2020 at 10:02 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 7

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My brothers' girlfriend and her mom have decided with my mom and sister to throw my bridal shower. It is very sweet of them but they have already decided on the main guest list of thirty people, the only problem is they left off all of my college friends who literally asked me the night before if someone was throwing me a shower. They are some of my closest friends and it is four-seven extra people and I have been to each of there bridal showers. The other people on the list are people who have played an important role in my life years ago but only some of them are still apart of my daily life. I don't know what to do or what to suggest other than having two events but its just a touchy subject because they have put a lot into planning it and I don't want to seem ungrateful.

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Latest activity by Camellia, on May 7, 2020 at 9:00 PM

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Audrey · on May 4, 2020 at 10:09 PM
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I would probably ask your mom and sister (if you feel comfortable) if there's enough resources to add those you'd like to add. If there's not, there's nothing wrong with having a shower with just friends in addition to the one your fam is throwing you!
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Hanna · on May 4, 2020 at 10:51 PM
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I've never heard of a bridal shower where the bride didn't have a say in the guest list...I would simply ask the people throwing the shower to add your friends to the list. If these are some of your closest friends then they should absolutely be added to the guest list
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Melle · on May 5, 2020 at 12:09 PM
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I also never heard of a shower where the bride did not have a say in guest list. again, i would just be honest and say i would love my friends to be invited
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Nicole · on May 5, 2020 at 10:38 PM
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I would bring it up with your mom. For my shower's i was asked to provide my guest list to the hosts
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Hannah · on May 5, 2020 at 11:22 PM
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I agree with the other posters. My bridal party threw my shower along with my mom and MIL. They asked me for the guest list. That was literally the only thing I had a say in, as everything was a surprise. I would talk to your mom and sister about it.
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Cristy · on May 7, 2020 at 4:28 PM
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Most bridal showers I've been to have been thrown by family or friends of the bride, but absolutely included the bride's input on the guest list. For my shower, I did the list myself entirely, because my sister (MOH) and FMIL knew that they didn't know all my friends, and unless they got a list from me, some important people would be left out.
Just talk to your mom, you're not complaining. You just want the people there that you are closest to. There's nothing wrong with that.
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Camellia · on May 7, 2020 at 9:00 PM
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There's two different things I would do. I would ask my mother and sister to add them to the list. . The other is to just have two showers, one with family and friends and the other with just friends. That's what I'm doing, I get my crazy friends to myself to party with and the other is family I love that is laid back. Both of best worlds.
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