Bridal shower etiquette

Being a bride doesnt mean you own the color white. A lot of brides dont even wear white to their shower. Be like Elsa and let it go.

LB my point is that I am nicely asking for her not to, considering I am planning on wearing white. Not at all saying I own the color. It is a consideration thing.

I'm not wearing white to my rehearsal or any shower. A lot of people don't anymore but it's fine if you do. I wouldn't be too worried about it if she wants to wear white. Maybe ask her to wear a scarf, bold necklace, cardigan, etc if it's that big of a deal... or even an off white/ivory shirt. If she says no, just let it be. It's not the end of the world and honestly, no one will probably remember who wore what in a week.

This no etiquette on what people can wear to the Bridal Shower anyone can wear white to it if they wish. I understand you're the bride you get to be the only one in white on your wedding day.

Be nice to your mom and let her wear whatever she likes.

I don’t think there’s any sort of dress code standard for a shower. Plenty of brides don’t even opt to wear white. You’re talking about half her outfit being white— colorful pants and a very common/standard neutral shirt color— this is a thing I would definitely advise letting GO. It’s just a shower, your outfit isn’t what makes it special. It’s literally a party about YOU, you’ll be the focus no matter what. This is a pick your battles thing and this one is absolutely not one worth fighting. She probably won’t be the only one who ends up in partial white that day anyway.

I would say let it go since it’s only your shower but I would make sure she doesn’t wear white to the wedding.

I understand you’re frustrated she isn’t listening to what you want but this is not a hill I would die on. If you’ve asked her not to wear it and she still wants to then let it go.

View Quoted Comment Agreed, I can see where you’re coming from and I would be disappointed if my mom insisted on doing something that made me upset at my shower. I wouldn’t let this ruin the shower or cause a big argument though. At the end of the day you’re the bride whether other people where white or not.

I didn't wear white to my shower and most of the showers I went to the bride to be didn't wear white. You should just let your mom wear white; there are bigger battles to fight.

There is no particular tradition of brides wearing white to anything but their wedding. Recent TV shows and movies, and wedding sites supported by industry that profits from every extra outfit you buy when unnecessary, but it is made to sound a good idea, have recently been pushing this special white, or your wedding colors, stuff for showers, engagement parties, and bachelorette parties. It is a recent fad, pushed by media and advertising. There is no reason why your mother should buy into it, even if you want to. It is, however, a long standing and still customary point of manners, for women, even brides, to respect their parents as individual adults who have been dressing themselves for decades with no need for being told what to do by daughters or others overstepping their boundaries. As bride, it is not up to you to Sa anything negative, ever, about the choices of family, friends, hostesses, or guests , at any wedding related party. And bride only has a Sa in what her bridesmaids wear to the wedding, not MOB or FOB or and FIL, sibling, or cousin. So apologize to your mother for criticizing her choice in clothing. If you want to buy in to this recent dad of white or wedding colors, for yourself, do it. But you do not own the colors for even ten minutes. And at your wedding, it is perfectly fine for other people to wear white, or your bridal dress color, as long as it is a garment that does not look like a wedding gown. Say you are sorry to your mom for criticizing her, when she is doing nothing wrong.

I've never heard of that being something for a shower, more just a wedding. But I don't think her being the mother of the bride gives her the right to wear white? That makes no sense. I don't think anyone will notice her, since you are the bride.

I guess I can see where you are coming from, but I would personally let this one go. Her wearing a white shirt and colorful pants isn't going to take away from you being the bride.

I think everyone will know you're the bride and you're the one being celebrated. Maybe if she was wearing all white but she's wearing colorful pants, so I don't think it'll take away from your day. Plus, are you going to feel this way if someone wears a white shirt to you wedding? Everyone will know its about YOU, so I think you're stressing out over something small.

Depends on where your people come from. In much of Europe and England, old tradition is essentially, if bride is the princess of the day, MOB is the Queen. Though she wears more age appropriate styles, the MOB the only one who wears any white or royal colors ( usually royal blue or gold), or materials , like gold metallic fabrics, brocades or jacquards which include white as part of the pattern, or are a blend of white on white or ivory on white, or white or ivory satin, fur trims. Just not styled like the younger bride, more regal. Until Queen Victoria's reign, most of Christian Europe, the bride wore mostly ice or light blue, the color of virginity, with white. Not a white gown. So mom often wore gold and white, or royal blue with either. This no one wears white but the bride is a modern notion, and a long tradition only in some cultures. Til WW2, most people wore their best newest dress as brides, then continued and wore it places to parties and special occasions for a few years later. Do not take many of the TV and movie and media notions to have anything much to do with real history. So a mother saying MOB will frequently wear colors of the bridal gown, just not all white, and not the young style, may be culturally correct. True in the Scandinavian side of my family. And even before Disney, the Cinderella marrying in light blue with the Queen ( since Cin's mom deceased) in blue, white, and gold, was typical for a Germanic tale, or Russian one.

It’s not traditional for brides to wear white to the shower, and the fact that you are a bride doesn’t mean that you own the color white. You’re being dramatic.

Wearing white to a bridal shower is NOT a no-no. Nor is a bride wearing white to her bridal shower a tried and true "tradition." Honestly. I wore pink to my shower. It would be one thing if you said she planned on showing up in a full on wedding gown to your shower. Then I think it would be a problem. But a white top? It's a top. I really think you need to take a step back, take a breath, and think about how silly it sounds that you are literally reacting this way over a shirt. As brides, we tend to get worked up over silly little details, and it's normal - but sometimes we need to be called out on our dramatic side. Breathe, let her wear the white shirt. No one is going to think she's taking the focus away from you.

I didn’t even know brides wore white to the shower. I don’t know anyone who has done that. I also think it’s a little weird to be upset by this when she’s not even wearing a white dress, just a shirt and colored pants.

I've been to showers/bachelorette parties where guests were wearing white elements of their outfit (white top with colorful pants/skirt). Other people will probably show up wearing white. I would let this go. I know my mom is super stressed out about finding something that looks nice on her, so if she found something she liked and it was partially white, I would be totally fine with it because I want her to be comfortable.

This is ridiculous. You shouldn't dictate what anyone is wearing to your bridal shower. Ppl know it's your shower and your mom or anyone else who is wearing some white will not take away from your day. Apologize to your mom and tell her she should wear whatever she loves and feels good in.

View Quoted Comment You think she should be " more considerate?" When you are doing something rude, asking some other person to change their outfit so you exclusively wear a color?