Bridal shower dress code?!

I did this for a friend's bridal shower. We secretly asked all of the guests to wear the bride's favorite color: purple. She was bummed that she couldn't make that one of her wedding colors so we decided to bring it to her shower instead. She loved it!

I havent seen it for a bridal shower, but my friends MOH requested we all wear wedding colors for her bachelorette party as a surprise for the bride. But only 2 or 3 of us dressed accordingly.

My suggestion is that you “suggest“ a fun color scheme for people to wear… But you can’t require it. Also, even if the whole party has on white, everyone still knows you’re the bride.

I would suggest a color or two maybe. Requiring a color is a bit over-the-top/bordering on -Zilla territory. If people don’t own the color you don’t want them having to go out and buy something just for a shower.

I think you can suggest it but not require it.

This is really not a thing. I honestly don’t even think suggesting a color is okay. These are presumably full-grown women who can dress themselves you are inviting to the shower. It is really not appropriate to tell them what to wear beyond providing the general style of the event (casual, business casual, cocktail, formal, etc.)

I’ve honestly never heard don’t wear white to a bridal shower, only a wedding. Everyone invited to your bridal shower knows who you are and knows the event is in your honor.

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Sometimes there are themed Bridal Showers. My friend had a "Breakfast at Tiffany's" theme and all the guests wore black dresses, it was super cute.

View Quoted Comment I would say a theme party (or shower) is completely different than suggesting a dress code for a otherwise normal shower

I've never heard of that, it would probably be inconvenient for some guests if it wasn't a common color but not the end of the world for sure. I think it's fine to include.

I think suggesting a color is ok, borderline controlling, but whatever.

But what bothers me about this is that you're wanting to dictate a color simply to avoid having anyone else wear white. First of all, this is not a thing. The only etiquette surrounding the color white is for the wedding. And anyone who is clueless enough to wear white to someone else's wedding just makes themselves look stupid, in my opinion. But even then, you can't tell your guests (to the shower or the wedding) what to wear. These are grown adults, who can dress themselves appropriately all on their own.

If it were a themed shower (or wedding for that matter), and the dress code request was part of that, I wouldn't mind so much. Otherwise, this suggestion would offend me a little.

I feel like you can’t really tell people what specific color to wear. What if they don’t have that in their closet and wasn’t planning on buying something new to wear to your shower?

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Even if you have a themed party you can't require a specific dress code. They're guests, not decor.

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All kinds of this.

Thank you all for the suggestions, so I went with “wear your favorite fall colors and attire” since my bridal shower is in October and it’s a “falling in love” theme