Bridal Shower Covid Etiquette Question

I personally think it's ok because you're inviting them to another wedding celebration technically right? but i would want to give them the option to view your wedding ceremony - maybe livestream it if you can?

View Quoted Comment We are! We're having the wedding video taped and hope to project and play the ceremony on the Sunday.

Inviting them to the bridal shower isn't a problem, but I agree with Melle, I would look into having a live stream setup so they can see the ceremony. Really cool of you to have 2 separate "receptions" to accommodate everyone in the same weekend despite the pandemic

Normally, yes I would agree with your mom.

With COVID, I say throw all rules out the window and do whatever you want. If it makes your mom feel better, say no gifts on the invite.

I am siding with you on this one. Circumstances that we cannot control should not dictate a bridal shower. Enjoy your day, with your family and friends.

Yes, it looks like a selfish ask for a second present in addition to a wedding gift.
You can have a non-shower, an open house or party, with no gifts. You treat people like any host and provide food, drink, activities if you want in addition to being sociable, but no gifts.
Everything you say you want. It would not go over well, people giving 2 gifts, don't get to see the wedding, and presumably closer friends and family who would ordinarily be the ones folks would invite to give two gifts, would not be at the shower at all. Just the wedding. When normally, only the very closest women to the bride are ever asked to a shower at all.