Bridal shower & card box...

The bridal shower is to "shower" the bride with gifts for her home. Not everyone has a bridal shower, and the bride should really have a physical registry for the shower.

Most respectable people wouldn't think about showing up to a wedding empty handed. You aren't asking for gifts, but most people will bring one anyway.

I understand you are trying to be thoughtful but don't worry about it. Most people decide the amount they will spend on gifts then divide it up between the shower and the wedding.

Not all the women will be invited to the shower, either.

Hi Crystal! Bridal shower gifts are in addition to wedding presents. As the invited guest you can obviously split your gift budget between the two events if you need to!

If you’re invited to the wedding shower, you need to bring a gift

Registries are also the norm for bridal and wedding showers, so be prepared to bring a present to that as well. Plan to spend around $50 for that gift. This is most likely the same registry the couple is using for their wedding, so save the more expensive items for the big day.

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When joining here, I was also confused. I was raised (as in, how my family did it) was that the couple gets one gift. If you're invited to the shower, you bring it to the shower (so that they don't have to lug it home from the wedding). If you don't go to the shower, you bring it to the wedding.

That said, I also come from a boxed gift area (money isn't a traditional wedding present), and nothing crazy extravagant.

If I go to a shower, I usually spend $75-100 on a gift. If I go to a wedding and not a shower, I spend $75-100 on a gift.

Someone that doesn't show up to the shower would be bringing a gift to the wedding so you would need some where for them to put it!