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Bridal Shower attendance

Susan, on July 29, 2020 at 10:58 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6

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I was invited to a friend’s shower, wedding and Bachelorette Party. We just got back from the Bachelorette weekend. Due to COVID the shower was rescheduled to my birthday. I have/had every intention of going until my long term boyfriend asked if I would reconsider not going because he wants to go out of town for my birthday. I thought I verbally RSVP’d but I was just asked if I was attending. I’m torn. I really don’t care if I do anything for my birthday. What is the right thing to do?

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Latest activity by Leanne, on July 29, 2020 at 10:15 PM

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Melle · on July 29, 2020 at 11:01 AM
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It sounds like your boyfriend might have already planned something
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Caytlyn · on July 29, 2020 at 11:17 AM
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I don’t think there’s any right or wrong answer. Of course it would be nice to attend the shower, but your friend should also be understanding if you have other plans for your birthday.
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Taran · on July 29, 2020 at 11:52 AM
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I would talk to your boyfriend because as PP said, it sounds like he has something planned. If you want to go to the shower you could always see if you and your boyfriend could go out of town the weekend before or after the shower? I also think it would be completely acceptable for you to miss the shower because not only is it your birthday, but your bf has planned a trip for you
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Rachel · on July 29, 2020 at 1:32 PM
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I’d ask your boyfriend if he wouldn’t mind celebrating the weekend before or after if you do want to go to the shower. Birthdays are important, yes, but hopefully we have many birthdays and just one bridal shower. 😊
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MrsD · on July 29, 2020 at 4:24 PM
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I'd tell my husband (or boyfriend in your case) to plan our getaway for the weekend before or after my birthday so I could go to the shower since I verbally committed already. I'm not a birthday person, couldn't care less if I attend something for someone else or work or do nothing on my birthday. I've had 26 birthdays, that's enough weddings & wedding-related events are a lot more important.
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Leanne · on July 29, 2020 at 10:15 PM
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You don’t have to attend every event for her day. But do what YOU want to do.
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