Bridal Shower and Save the Dates

Yes you should give everyone enough time to prepare for the expenses that they have to go through. Sending your save the dates in October/November is a great idea.

I think you should do the bridal shower somewhere in the middle, it will save time and stress for you. Hope this helps.

I think sending the save the dates out early to OOT guests is smart. Your timeframe seems reasonable.

Are you planning on planning and hosting the shower(s) yourself? Showers are usually thrown for you by others: family or friends.

Hi Ashley! Welcome to the WeddingWire Community! I would lean towards sending the save-the-dates until about six months in advance so about early next year, but since distance is a factor, you could send them later this year. However, keep in mind, things change for people all the time, so if you send them at a more relevant time, then they can have a better idea what their plans are, but an early notification wouldn't hurt! I would also look into planning the shower in a location that could work for both families to avoid having to throw two. Could West Middlesex, PA or somewhere in that area work as a decent halfway point?

Most of our guests will be at least 1,000 miles away, so we are sending our Save the Dates out 10-11 months prior. I've already set up our wedding website and told our wedding party the date too! I'm having my bridal shower & bachelorette in CA (where most my bridesmaids, both my parents, and a lot of guests are from) and neither in CO (where we live now).

Small world! I am also getting married next September, and I am from Pittsburgh, PA as well. My FH and I currently live a little outside of Morgantown (closer to Deep Creek, so we are getting married there).

It is absolutely ok to send STDs to OOT guests a year in advance. We are sending ours out in December (so 10 months out).

As for the bridal shower, I would discuss location options with your MOH and mom. Unless somebody else is offering to throw you a second shower, I would stick to just one.

Hi! Fellow Pittsburgh Bride here!

Congratulations! I agree with the other posts. time frame for save the dates are reasonable due to guest traveling. I did the same thing. For the Bridal shower who ever is hosting will decide on the location. If you happen to have one shower you can invite people near and far. Many guests who go to weddings know that a bridal shower will be included for wedding festivities and will come if they are able to. If the wedding guests are not able to do both, you would rather them coming to the wedding!

Usually a shower is for close friends and family. When someone offers to throw a shower that eliminates your worries and concern, so you can focus on wedding planning!

Good luck planning!

Did they have any opinions on where to have the shower? Seems to make the most sense to do it somewhere in the middle. Or if you have two, people don't necessarily need to travel twice. One could be in PA for your family and one in Ohio for his family (maybe even hosted by his family).

I'm going to take the opposite point of view. If your Mom and MOH are planning the shower, I would have it locally. Why incur extra expense for them and traveling time for everyone?

If someone from FH's family wants to host a shower, you and your Mom can be the ones to travel. I would prioritize your guests' comfort over yours.