Bridal shower after the wedding?

It would def be weird to have a shower after the fact. Is there a date where it could be squeezed in before the wedding? If not, I would say skip it.

If you are already married then you shouldn't have a bridal shower.

I'd tell her to skip it, especially since you had a small elopement and the only women that should be invited to a shower are the women that are invited to your wedding.

I'd skip it. Typically only people invited to the wedding are invited to the shower, and it would be weird to have it after the wedding and gift grabby to invite a bunch of people who weren't included in the wedding.

You are no longer a bride, you're a wife! If she wants to throw a celebration of marriage so your family can come party with you and your husband, fine, but a shower definitely looks gift grabby

Skip it since she's talking about inviting people who are not invited to the wedding. A future baby shower is a great plan!

I would just skip it but you can make a small registry still. If any of your moms co workers bug her about it she can tell them where you're registered. Otherwise planning a baby shower can be just as fun!

That's what I didn't want to come off as. I figure I'll just tell her to tell them where we are registered if they really feel like they should send something and in 2019/2020 I'll give her full reign of throwing a baby shower. ??

I would say no to that. If you're doing an elopement, none of these people are invited I assume. I think what you're doing is fine. If they want to send something anyway, they can. But let your mom go baby shower crazy in the future!

Nobody is invited to the shower who wasn't invited to the wedding.

Either decline altogether if you're more comfortable with that, or agree to a small shower with just the ladies invited to the elopement. I have 30 something wedding guests also and had an amazing "bridal brunch" with just the ladies closest to me (11 of us total!) Just because it's small doesn't mean it isn't a real shower - they even made me wear the bow hat :/ - and my mom was happy because she got to plan something. She was able to put it together on really short notice as we set our date in mid July and the shower was Sunday before last.

Keep in mind that people who weren't invited may send you shower type gifts anyway when they find out it was a truly intimate wedding/elopement.

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It would be weird.

Skip it. Gift grabby and weird

I don't necessarily think it would be "gift-grabby" as it seems that these women WANT you to have a shower despite being married already. However, it is a little strange. I would suggest maybe having a get together to celebrate your marriage and if they brings gifts, fine. That or yes to the baby shower idea.

If I was invited to a bridal shower post-wedding I'd think it was super tacky. Would seem like an excuse to get more things off your registry.

Skip it.

Yeah that would be a hard no for me. Two things, you're already married by then, and you shouldn't ask anyone to a shower that isn't invited to the wedding.

Not appropriate. Showers in my honest opinion are gift grabby in general. Especially after you're married. Absolutely not. You aren't entitled to other people's gifts especially if they're giving them to celebrate your wedding and they weren't invited to your celebration

Go with the future baby shower plans

Skip it.

This is weird. Don't have shower if you're already married and at no point should she be going around telling people where you're registered unless they are coming to the wedding and they ask her.