Just Said Yes June 2020

Bridal shower after legal ceremony?

Caileigh, on July 6, 2020 at 10:43 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 12
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Due to this global pandemic my fiancé and I postponed all of our pre-wedding events, however we did legally get married on our original date. It was just us and our parents- we still plan on having our big even next year but I’m so torn about the shower/parties involved. My sister (MOH) and my mom are both very adamant that we should still be able to experience everything next year but I feel guilty/selfish for all of this. Is there anyone doing something similar?


Latest activity by Lindsay, on July 6, 2020 at 2:13 PM
  • Kerin
    Super February 2021
    Kerin ·
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    I don't think you should feel guilty. This was a monkey wrench for which no one was prepared, and I agree with your Mom and MOH that you should get to experience everything.

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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I agree with pp I think it’s ok for you to still get those pre wedding events
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  • Kristen
    Master November 2020
    Kristen ·
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    I mean you do plan on having a bigger celebration and if those people are invited then why not. I think etiquette has slightly changed during this time and most people are understanding. Smiley smile

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  • Megan
    Super October 2021
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    I’m the same way! I feel super weird having a bridal shower for already being married for a year. We are legally getting married this October but postponed the big wedding to next year. As someone said on another post, the rule book was thrown out when COVID hit in March. It is kinda weird and untraditional yes, but you should still be able to enjoy all the same fun events as any other bride even if things had to put in a different order due to COVID. We shouldn’t feel guilty because a pandemic ruined our fun.
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  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
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    If your family and friends want to throw a shower and bachelorette party for you, I say let them! Covid ruined a lot of things for a lot of people this year. You deserve to experience all of the pre-wedding festivities that you missed out on this year.

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  • Jess
    Devoted May 2021
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    Nope, I'm doing the same thing. I still want the full experience of everything I had planned on doing before Covid hit. This is not a normal time so I don't think normal rules and etiquette should apply!

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  • Dj Tanner
    June 2021
    Dj Tanner ·
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    Coronavirus is the selfish one here. Not you. I think people in general are very open to all the different ways that weddings and bridal showers are being done now because of covid. I think your guests will understand too. If you have a guest that feels that having your bridal shower after the fact is wrong, that’s a hard cross off the guest list for me in my opinion. When people are so consumed over etiquette and “the right way to do things by the books” versus the happiness of a friend or family member, it makes me question them.
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
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    As long as everyone knows that you are already married, it’s completely fine under these circumstances.
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  • Belle
    VIP August 2022
    Belle ·
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    Under this kind of covid situation, I think almost everything is understandable. We are doing the reception before the ceremony 12 days apart 🤷🏻‍♀️
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  • Brandi
    Devoted July 2020
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    I also feel super weird but everyone in my corner is like “we’re doing it.” Normal etiquette would say no but Covid isn’t normal and we’ve all had to adjust. I’m sure the bridal shower is possible and will be a beautiful experience. We still deserve our moment.
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  • Erin
    Expert August 2020
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    I absolutely would still do everything!
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  • Lindsay
    Devoted July 2021
    Lindsay ·
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    You should have the full experience it is not your fault that it was taken away I’m having a shower next year as well after being legally married it’s something I wanted as part of the experience I’m just going to call it a Mrs. shower honoring the new mrs but it’s still a bridal shower. If people love you they will be happy to celebrate with you no matter what!!
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