Due to this global pandemic my fiancé and I postponed all of our pre-wedding events, however we did legally get married on our original date. It was just us and our parents- we still plan on having our big even next year but I’m so torn about the shower/parties involved. My sister (MOH) and my mom are both very adamant that we should still be able to experience everything next year but I feel guilty/selfish for all of this. Is there anyone doing something similar?
I’m the same way! I feel super weird having a bridal shower for already being married for a year. We are legally getting married this October but postponed the big wedding to next year. As someone said on another post, the rule book was thrown out when COVID hit in March. It is kinda weird and untraditional yes, but you should still be able to enjoy all the same fun events as any other bride even if things had to put in a different order due to COVID. We shouldn’t feel guilty because a pandemic ruined our fun.
If your family and friends want to throw a shower and bachelorette party for you, I say let them! Covid ruined a lot of things for a lot of people this year. You deserve to experience all of the pre-wedding festivities that you missed out on this year.
Nope, I'm doing the same thing. I still want the full experience of everything I had planned on doing before Covid hit. This is not a normal time so I don't think normal rules and etiquette should apply!
Coronavirus is the selfish one here. Not you. I think people in general are very open to all the different ways that weddings and bridal showers are being done now because of covid. I think your guests will understand too. If you have a guest that feels that having your bridal shower after the fact is wrong, that’s a hard cross off the guest list for me in my opinion. When people are so consumed over etiquette and “the right way to do things by the books” versus the happiness of a friend or family member, it makes me question them.
I also feel super weird but everyone in my corner is like “we’re doing it.” Normal etiquette would say no but Covid isn’t normal and we’ve all had to adjust. I’m sure the bridal shower is possible and will be a beautiful experience. We still deserve our moment.
You should have the full experience it is not your fault that it was taken away I’m having a shower next year as well after being legally married it’s something I wanted as part of the experience I’m just going to call it a Mrs. shower honoring the new mrs but it’s still a bridal shower. If people love you they will be happy to celebrate with you no matter what!!