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Adrienne
Just Said Yes September 2021

Bridal Shower after covid marriage?

Adrienne, on June 20, 2021 at 11:05 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 4
So DH and I were originally supposed to have our wedding in 2020... obviously that got tanked when COVID hit. We had elderly family who we worried wouldn't get to see us get married (and it sadly looks like our fears are going to come true), among other necessity reasons, if we waited so we postponed the wedding until it was safe and allowed to gather and got married in a civil ceremony attended by immediate family and our bridal party via Zoom. We didn't even get to go to the courthouse cause it was closed due to COVID! We had an officiant friend marry us and submitted the paperwork. We're having our big wedding party in September and I was originally just gonna do everything else because we didn't get to last year but... the time for the bridal shower invites to go out is fast approaching and now I'm panicking that it's not okay to do a bridal shower. Of course Googling it didn't help - all the advice is from pre-COVID where they say it's tacky and gift-grabby to get married then do everything else after. I'd agree normally but I didn't get to have a normal wedding by choice, COVID forced me to change plans to keep people safe. I feel like it's not fair I'd have to stick to "traditions" and miss out on what I would have had because a deadly global pandemic hit and nothing was open for me to HAVE my wedding or pre-wedding events. I missed out through no fault of my own. But at the same time, I don't want people to think poorly of me and think I'm only doing it to get more gifts.



What do you all think? Am I overthinking this or is it truly tacky to go about pre-wedding plans even though I'm already legally married because of COVID?

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Latest activity by Adrienne, on June 21, 2021 at 12:44 AM
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    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    I don't think it's tacky. I'm assuming someone agreed to host your shower, so that would indicate that those in your circle don't think it's tacky. The shower is hosted by someone other than the bride and only those closest to the bride are invited. You know your crowd best. Do you think your closest friends and family would feel it's tacky?
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  • Luna
    Just Said Yes November 2021
    Luna ·
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    You have every right to want to have a shower. You deserve it. Things got messy last year and everyone should understand that. Do you boo and don’t worry about others judging you if you want to have shower this year.
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  • Yasmine
    Master October 2020
    Yasmine ·
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    Have your shower! My husband and I were married during Covid as well and our big wedding is this year. My sister & bestfriend are currently planning a bridal shower for me as well. There's nothing wrong with it, many brides had to switch things up because of Covid and it's perfectly fine
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  • Adrienne
    Just Said Yes September 2021
    Adrienne ·
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    Thank you everyone!! Things have just been so stressful (we're also trying to buy a house in this ridiculous market and are suffering) and I just panicked. All my friends and family totally understand about all the rescheduling and are very excited we're still doing the whole shebang. But all the "traditional etiquette" around weddings stresses me out sometimes. Thank you for putting my mind at ease! ☺️
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