So DH and I were originally supposed to have our wedding in 2020... obviously that got tanked when COVID hit. We had elderly family who we worried wouldn't get to see us get married (and it sadly looks like our fears are going to come true), among other necessity reasons, if we waited so we postponed the wedding until it was safe and allowed to gather and got married in a civil ceremony attended by immediate family and our bridal party via Zoom. We didn't even get to go to the courthouse cause it was closed due to COVID! We had an officiant friend marry us and submitted the paperwork. We're having our big wedding party in September and I was originally just gonna do everything else because we didn't get to last year but... the time for the bridal shower invites to go out is fast approaching and now I'm panicking that it's not okay to do a bridal shower. Of course Googling it didn't help - all the advice is from pre-COVID where they say it's tacky and gift-grabby to get married then do everything else after. I'd agree normally but I didn't get to have a normal wedding by choice, COVID forced me to change plans to keep people safe. I feel like it's not fair I'd have to stick to "traditions" and miss out on what I would have had because a deadly global pandemic hit and nothing was open for me to HAVE my wedding or pre-wedding events. I missed out through no fault of my own. But at the same time, I don't want people to think poorly of me and think I'm only doing it to get more gifts.
What do you all think? Am I overthinking this or is it truly tacky to go about pre-wedding plans even though I'm already legally married because of COVID?