Bridal robes

In 3 wedding I was in I really tried to please the bride by wearing gift robes, though I did not want to at all. And it displeased them that I wore a button front shirt and knee length leggings. I do not sit around in robesthat end 5 inches below my crotch, and fasten so the V front is open to between my breasts, which are very full on a slender figure, and end up on display. Every time, 2-3 of the 3-4 bridesmaids protested when brides bought robes without asking, big scenes. People like me who wear revealing undergarments with lovers and husbands, but do not sit around in their undergarments and "sexy " cut robes with groups of strangers, bm all friends if bride, who do not know each other. With hair and makeup people, and MOB and aunts and grandmothers passing through, and people pulling out phone cameras any time they want a photo. Every time, brides fuss and pouted and got real upset. I no longer will do it, I don't care what the bride wants. When a bride asks me to be in a wedding, since that point , in addition to talking about what bride's expectations are for showers or parties, and whether or not we would see things the same or are just a bad match, not a good choice to be bm or MOH for this bride, I make it clear: I do not take off work or from my family to do luxury spa days which I hate to begin with. I get a haircut or a trim 1-2 times a year, but do my own hair and makeup, I don't sit around hours and hours while others get done, since I can be showered hair French braided, chignon of fine braids or whatever, and made up, in private, in under half an hour myself. I don't do all night slumber parties, manicure parties, and I don't sit around in bride's chosen robes or shirts with strangers and get my photo taken. I own a closet full of button front or shoulder snap tops, and comfortable pants or shirts, and that is what I wear to get ready. I tried robes 3 times, trying to be nice, and hated it, and ended up with bad feeling with the bride. When I got married, my mom said, this will be the 40th time you have been in a wedding. Now your own. I stopped to count. Mom was right. Now I have been in four more, and have 3 in the upcoming year . Except twice when I was in the army, I have always offers my home or family home when young, for a shower, and provided full meals or heavy apps, relying on a co host to do invitations and decorations if too busy with work and school, or now kids, at the time. So I am not ungenerous or generally a troublemaker. Ihave accepted the roles in 47 weddings, and turned down some. I would not be asked by so many if I were generally a nasty person. But I have come to have standard lines I do not cross. I wont cut , or dye my long black hair blonde for a beach girl theme. I am a person, not a prop. I am nit part of a celebrity entourage for months and months of get together and 6-9 person shopping trips for bridal and other gowns . Only shop for bride if one of two companions - I would never leave a bride to do it alone. I have made gowns for hard to fit people, free, and whole wedding party gowns or bridal gowns, as a gift, and never charged any fellow bm for alterations. But I draw lines, and for many years now: I no longer wear robes that are gifts from the bride for all. Instead of a button front shirt and leggings under a robe, I wear my own clothes to begin with.