Bridal Registry but no Shower Etiquette?!

We have a registry listed on our wedding website but I didn't have a shower. I live in a different state from all family (FL to CA) so no way would that have worked. We registered for things we want but likely wouldn't buy for ourselves, like a really nice set of pots/pans, humidifier, that camera thing so you can watch your dog when you're not home, taco holder, etc. But our registry is pretty small to encourage cash/checks instead.

It's totally fine to register and not have a shower. Some people (especially older guests) want to buy a physical gift rather than giving cash, and that way at least you are more likely to get something you will use. As long as you have various price points you are good.

I'm having a DW (and also a shower) but feel weird about it too. I hate that people are going to buy us gifts and spend to come to the wedding. (We are having a party when we get home too for everyone) however everyone keeps telling me we need to register because regardless people are going to want to give us a gift and if we don't have a registry they will pick that gift out themselves. No one wants that (And I say that as lovingly as possible I worked in bridal registry in the past you should see some of the stuff people would come up with on their own).

I don't think we are having a shower. We made a small registry but I am undecided if I will even put it on the website. But at least then I have something if someone specifically asks for it.

You can have a registry and no shower... I don't think it is rude at all!

I'm in a similar boat, lady! FH and I are minimalists and have lived together for three years before he popped the question. We hear "registry" and scratch our heads because we have everything we need.

It's not rude to have a registry, shower or no. as long as you aren't shoving it at your guests. Some guests will WANT to give you a gift and want a guideline on what you would like, so if they ask, you just say thank so much, we are registered at X. It's actually not rude; it's for their convenience.