Bridal Party

It depends on your budget. I'm sure it would be appreciated, but not expected.

I don't think it is expected. For our wedding everyone had to travel. My husband is from New Jersey and I'm Pennsylvania so we got married in between so it was about an 1.5 hours for most people. However, the best man lives in California and one groomsmen lives in Ohio so they had to book at hotel room. The rest of the bridal party lives in either New Jersey or Pennsylvania. Some of them choose to spend the night and others drove back home after the wedding. That was their decision. We didn't pay for their hotel accommodations nor did we pay for their attire, but we talked to them about their budgets. Honestly most people know when they accept the position of being in a bridao party there are certain costs included.

We are in the same boat. We didn’t pay for the attire but did pay for the accommodations for our bridal parties. I don’t think it’s necessary but a nice gesture to contribute something (whether it be travel or attire or lodging) if you’re able since a destination wedding is most likely going to cost your party more than a local one would

View Quoted Comment I understand that of course, I just think the dress thing is tacky, especially when the likelihood of them wearing it again is slim. And I’m super picky about everything matching color and dress type. We’re having wedding in Tennessee. 2 bridesmaids are coming from Florida, one from Texas, one from Oklahoma, groomsmen 2 from Texas, one from South Carolina, and one from Arkansas. So 90% of guests will be needing hotels

View Quoted Comment Thanks for the input

I would if it's in the budget to do so, since it will cost them a lot to even get there.

Also, kudos about the BM dresses - I did the same and can't believe so many ppl are ok with essentially charging their friends for the honor of standing up with them in a wedding.

View Quoted Comment That’s exactly how I felt. I’ve been in several weddings and I’ve always said, even way before I got engaged. When my time came I wouldn’t make them pay for it.

If you can afford their hotel room's, I think that's a great thing to do! Typically brides should consult bridesmaids about their budget prior to picking a dress if they expect them to pay for it, but it's nice you paid so you didn't have to do that!

I don’t think you’re expected to pay for any travel expenses. Or their dresses either, so it’s already very nice you offered. I think destination weddings are also somewhat of a vacation for your guests. Yes, the reason they are going is for your wedding, but you aren’t going to monopolize their time there and make their entire getaway about you. They will have time to do things they want and enjoy. So if you’re bridesmaids are agreeing to be in your wedding and know it’s a destination, I don’t see why you would pay for their whole trip. If you’re loaded, that’s great and would be very gracious of you. But the reality is most of us don’t have that kind of money.

View Quoted Comment The budget aspect I agree with but I see all too often different dresses or shades of color differences. So I personally feel it’s just easier to have it the way I want if I pay for it

View Quoted Comment That’s a good view point I hadn’t thought of previously

I agree with the above PPs that you are not required, nor is it expected, to pay for your wedding party's accommodations. However, the exception is if you require them to stay in a certain place then you would be expected to pay for those accommodations. As long as they are free to choose wherever they want to stay, then you're off the hook. Of course, if it is in your budget then go for it. I had a semi-DW and chose to pay for everyone's (not just my wedding party) accommodations that weekend because it was in my budget.

View Quoted Comment We’re having it in TN so I guess that would be considered semi DW there’s way to many people coming for me to pay for everyone’s accommodations but I like your viewpoint on it. If I’m not requiring they stay at a certain place.

If you can afford it then is a nice gesture to do so it takes the bill out of their hands. Is not required or expected but is something they’ll appreciate.