Bridal party

Is it that you want too many people or you don’t have enough that stand out?


The way my Fh and I did it was one for each big time in our lives: sister, childhood bestie (that we both still talk to), high school bestie (again, still close), and college bestie. Hope this helps

You need people that are going to be supportive but also truthful when providing opinions regarding your choices.


They should also support you in the bad, not just good times.
You don’t want someone that’s going to encourage you to leave just because you’ve had a small disagreement with your Husband.
The people “standing with you” should appreciate/understand the purpose and concept of marriage.

View Quoted Comment I have 4 sisters but I’m really only close to one but I don’t want to hurt the others by not asking them. But I have friends I am really close with that I would rather share my day with.

View Quoted Comment I am so puzzled

View Quoted Comment You can ask the others to assist in other ways.


Reading poems, Scriptures, Hostessing, passing out Programs, 🎁 or Guest Book Attendant

So the 1 sister you're close with is a given + X number of friends!

- If there is any question about which friends you want to include, think about your relationship with each one, and if some are closer than others to you and FH. Then, also think about it logistically, who is most likely to BE there for you, make you feel special, help with anything you need, etc.

For example, I included my future SIL as a bridesmaid, which I think helped us get to know each other and was great....but she was pretty detached. It was actually my high school bestie who was laughing with me all morning getting ready, reaching out to check in on me during the process, gushing over all things wedding, and generally making me feel amazing!

- For your other three sisters, there are still TONS of options that will be less responsibility, but still very important. Some of these could be: giving a toast at the rehearsal dinner, welcoming guests (pointing out ceremony/seats, guest book, gift table, etc), doing a reading during the ceremony, giving a blessing before dinner (if that's your thing!), or a welcome speech before dinner. I'm assuming they'll all be attending the bachelorette and bridal shower...maybe have them work together to plan the shower?

Ultimately, they may be a little hurt at first, but they'll want to support you on your big day. Just make sure if you ask them to participate in an alternate role, you go into it excited and tell them how important that role is to you

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I have 5 sisters and we're all pretty close. However, we all decided way before any of us got married that we didn't all have to be in each other's weddings and that we wouldn't be upset if we weren't. We all understood that there's a lot of us and that there are other special people in our lives that we want with us too. Three sisters that have been married before me have each had a different sister as a bridesmaid. The others helped out in different ways. I'm having 2 of my sisters as bridesmaids, along with my 3 close friends. Another sister is playing the piano for the ceremony and I'll have other things for my other sisters to do. Of course I don't know what your sisters are like, but hopefully they would be understanding and would appreciate being included in other ways, like PP mentioned.

I also had a difficult time. Not with everyone( i knew my for sures) , but there were girls I did not want to leave out. I was engaged for a while so I thought about my relationships with the girls and how they have been in the past and how they have supported me in way. You want your best people next to you. Girls that bring positively and light. Girls that LOVE YOU!

I chose supportive people.