Bridal party

A gift is a gift. It’s the thought not the price that counts. You gift what you can afford. You can gift each girl a gift card to their favorite shop, shirt of their favorite band, just something that you know they will love use again. Give them something you would give them for their birthday.

I am doing exactly what Rebelle suggested. I will be getting each of them gifts tailored to their individual likes and personalities, instead of a generic gift(s) for everyone. And definitely nothing that will be used in my wedding pictures for props, or anything with the word “bridesmaid” on it or the date of the wedding. The gifts are supposed to be a thank you, so I want to be sure that it is something they like and will use again. For example, one of my bridesmaids is really into astrology, so I got her a really nice tarot deck and ordered her a tarot box with her astrological chart hand carved into it. Another one of my friends is really into a particular band, so I am getting her tickets to their concert and having a member of the band do a cameo video for her thanking her for being such an awesome friend and BM. I think as long as the gift shows you know them and that you put effort into picking it out, then they will appreciate it.

I am thinking about getting each one a personalized tote bag and put a few items in it like lotion and a candle. The water bottle is a great idea, too.

I'm gonna go against what everyone else said, and am probably a lone wolf on my opinion on gifts.

This is MY wedding, it's not their birthday or Christmas or another gift giving holiday. I already shop for them for Christmas and their Birthday and finding gifts for that is hard enough. So why can't I get them items that thank them, relate to my wedding, and also have personal touches all in one. I've been given engagement gifts that I'm only going to be able to use in my engagement period (mugs that say Ms. to Mrs, shirts that say fiance etc) if other people can get me these time specific gifts why cant I reciprocate?

With all that said, I'm planning on getting my girls getting ready robes (they will not be embroidered with name or title, just plain robes), slippers to wear while getting ready (and can also be changed into for the end of the night if their shoes start to hurt) these will be embroidered with name and title, a candle from malicious women co. (these will be catered to each person individually, a wine tumbler and a tote bag both with their names on them.

View Quoted Comment I totally get where you are coming from. I will say though, the difference is what is being celebrated. When people go to your engagement party, they are celebrating your engagement; which is why receiving gifts you can only use during your engagement period (ms to mrs, etc.) makes sense. When you are giving gifts to your bridesmaids, you are thanking and celebrating them- not your wedding. Which is why the general rule is to get them gifts that reflect them as a person. You are trying to say thank you for being such a great friend and for being there for me. When you give items that are directly related to your wedding (ie, things with your wedding date on them or items such as personalized cups, robes, slippers that will be worn or used as props for your wedding photos) they aren’t really gifts that convey a genuine “thank you for your friendship”… they are more of a “hey, I want you to wear this while we get ready”.. which, in that case, those items really should have been paid for by the bride anyway. When choosing a gift for bridesmaids, I think the most important thing to keep in mind is the intention behind the gift- to celebrate that person, not your wedding. Individualized gifts do not have to be expensive or extravagant. They should just convey that you were genuinely thinking of, and grateful for, that person.

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Agree to disagree!

I got each of them a bracelet, getting ready robe, and am paying for their hair and makeup.


The water bottle idea is cute especially since they’ll use it while getting ready. Maybe add in a few other items, like a necklace they can wear for the wedding or maybe a getting ready robe?

Skip the Pinteresty bridesmaid gifts and get something related to their personal interests that is not wedding related. What would you buy if it was their birthday? With no names/titles engraved

View Quoted Comment You are not a lone wolf here! I am apart of your pack lol. I 100% agree with you. I will also be doing almost the same thing as you for my bridesmaid gifts. Instead of robes, I’m going to get them waffle knit pajama set.

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THANK YOU lol, I always read these "shop like it's their birthday" comments, and I'm like "i already struggle shopping for their birthday I don't wanna do it twice" One of my Bridesmaids birthdays is August 29 and my wedding is September 2nd, that's too much personalized gifts to think of

I just feel like there is too much hype over bridesmaid gifts. If I am a bridesmaid, I took on the responsibility. I didn’t do it for a gift. I don’t think you need to go out and spend a ton of money or shop for everyone specially. A small token of gratitude is perfectly fine. In every wedding I’ve been in (which is quite a few) I’ve always received wedding related gifts, mostly jewelry for the day. But I’ve reworn most of that jewelry. I’ve used the robes as bathing suit covers, etc. A personalized water bottle is perfectly fine. Get what you feel like getting them.

View Quoted Comment I just want to thank you ladies for your help and all your ideas are wonderful but since the cost of the wedding is on my fiancé and I I can afford to go all out. And the bottles I was thinking of IS something I know they will all use all the time. Idk I’ll figure something else out to go with it. I like the robe and slippers idea. I will see if I can find some I can afford. Once again thank you all ladies.

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I don't know how many girls you have, but these slippers on Etsy are extremely affordable!

https://www.etsy.com/listing/450597894/wedding-slippers-personalised-bridal?ref=cart

You can always add the robes, customized hangers, and customized bags as well if it fits within your budget. As a previous bridesmaid I never got those, but I didn't care for them anyway. It was just an honor for my cousin and good friend to add me to be a part of their special days. Those type of gifts are typical for bridesmaids gifts because while it is YOUR day it still makes them feel special in their own way too especially with a touch of customization So, again it's completely up to you!

I am giving my bridesmaids glitter wine glasss, bath and body works lotion and body spray

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